Western Clan and Eastern House: Second House

Parental influence is a big part of a person's life. Parents pass knowledge to children through various experiences and stories related to managing potential problems. This is an important factor, for though parents belong to the First House there is an additional level of thought and experience directing their personal success.

My parents are affluent and upwardly mobile. This relates to early experiences of moving when they were younger. My father moved at a young age. His community changed from East Coast to West Coast. My mother moved as a teen. They are successful and my mother wishes she was able to move earlier because she enjoys travel. While learning to adapt to a new cultures, there are side-effects. As their child making smaller moves between neighborhoods, not states, it is difficult developing relationships; therefore, my plan to raise children has been modified.

One area of concern is missing growing up with everyone and being able to select a potential husband from the First House. They both come from different backgrounds, yet many times children my age were evaluating each other and I lost. They were bonding, while I was traveling in the summer and winter. Perhaps I could celebrate missed birthdays when returning home. A conclusion made several years too late.

We made smaller moves to better our lives. We moved from my grandmother's home to my parent's home to a large home. This was normal for both of them. Their parents also moved when pursuing opportunities. Luckily we remained in a localized culture that is fairly similar in most ways. Eventually, they moved out-of-state and I stayed home.

During this time, my Mother promoted learning about various cultures; including, martial arts training at about age 8 or 9. During younger years, we absorb information at a higher rate because we did not question everything and want to share our own perspective. The information is taken and understood without as many barriers. Social behavior is engrained into a person's psyche (even though people mature) change, interests and core beliefs comply with the community.

As a child we played a game called "Grape Vine." My grandmother moved to Utah from Idaho. What she learned in relation to gossip is to never talk about other people. It is clear, even today, while watching the same game she was learning something totally different than the First House I was raised in. I learned gossip is misleading. At times people vent feelings or rearrange the story during transfer. I learned honesty is important. We often hear honest remarks, yet truthfulness is questionable. Ergo, listen to people speak, but do not act upon their words as truth. Learn what is truly going on by witnessing events. All other input is potentially erroneous should be considered with disbelief.

A person sees how the First House has greater dominance over the Second House. A larger group of successful people devaluates my Grandmother's perception. It is not quite as useful. Within three generations of living in the same neighborhood, I am much closer to joining the First House, which was an expedition into foreign territory for Grandmother.

The Second House is a powerful influence on a person's development, yet through relating to peers at a higher level and vast majority of people relaying similar ideals the First House takes precedence. However, the Second House has more control and methods ensure certain lessons are learned. These lessons are irreversible. However, it could be argued these unique lessons are more acceptable to the First House when a person understands community concepts of how the clan functions. If anything, the combination of virtue between the First and Second House creates underlying experiences to establish the Third House.

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