Purposeful Rewards

Talking about subconscious memories and incidental memories affecting a child's life, there is a concern for most Parent's. While being a worthwhile conversation, it stimulates fear. Instead of, focusing on potentially negative impacts, there is a way to establish real-life truths.

Parent's become fearful of all of their Child's experiences. Is there a time a Child gained an obsession after they walked around past dark? After Parents found them at a bus stop, they were rewarded with affirmations. It established a realization that they needed to be more attentive. The event is forgotten. The Child grows up and becomes a Bus Drive, enjoys socializing at bus stops or suffers many traumas from an uncontrollable pathology.

Parents worry about Children. A ruthless fear of death, disease, harm and trauma makes it impossible to throw out a Child who has self-destructive behavior. Some might offer this as a solution. Is it realistic?

Long speeches stemming from fear, abuse, neglect and other issues stem from worry. Sometimes, the self fulfilling prophecy becomes real. A Parent afraid their Child will suffer overcompensates with gifts when the Child misbehaves. They can runaway and lose interest in school. They can engage in casual sex. Parents have inadvertent rewards awful habits. Meanwhile, the Child is engages in life threatening activities to gain better toys and respect.

There are hundreds or thousands experiences while a Child is growing. A parent has to be attentive and aware of what is happening while Children are maturing. Instead of, punishing all experiences or becoming victims of personal fears, a Parent should reward good behavior. It is a good idea to rejoice when finding them at the bus stop. It also teaches a positive example of valuing people.

Reward good behavior creates a realistic life lesson. When a child does chores they get money to buy small candies. Not doing chores results in not having money or asking for money when the ice cream truck goes through the neighborhood.

This is true in life. Doing a job and saving money results in the reward of keeping a job and preparing for opportunities.

When going to a formal party, that is usually boring to a Child, it is fun to play games in the car. Occasionally go to the daycare and take interest in their progress. It is normal to tell the Child when they misbehave. It is important to reward them by acknowledging patience and making friends with a friendly smile and hug. Be openly proud of them not being a nuisance.

Find time to rewards for kindness, understanding, sharing and other respectable qualities. Rewards do not have to be money or things. It can be attention or food.

A parent might have to establish a reward in advance. I will give you $20 for each good grade at the end of the semester. I will take you to a movie if you complete this puzzle. Later in life it becomes, I will help pay for a car if you get good grades. I will give you gift certificates to see a movie with Friends if you talk to your Teacher's about what is required to graduate.

Rewards for doing well and useful behaviors establishes a generous amount of experiences for a Child to establish civility to offset potentially bizarre or unpleasant behaviors. They will also have successful pathologies that are normal to other people with similar successful behaviors.

The one time something went as planned is enough to establish a subconscious, pathological behavior is valid. It took the one time of making a Friend at a bus stop to believe that bus stops are joyous arenas of hope. People greet them with smiles. The Person with an obsession with bus stops interprets this as openness and caring. There an obvious that people have concern for their safety or think they have found someone who is promiscuous.

Many people remember trauma and also negative results when performing an innocent, if not brilliant, activity, unless avoiding trauma. Statistical results reveal that people who suffer from rape or abuse continually repeat the same actions that create the trauma. Sometimes, it is trauma. Sometimes, there are mediocre results. Sometimes, there is a realization of the greater truths in life. It is based on a real life situations.

I remember being about nine or ten years old. My Parents got into a loud argument. They do not usually fight. They yelled. Some dishes fell on the ground. I slept. Neighbors heard it. They talked to me about it before I went to school.

Something happened in my mind. I recall thinking the reward should be better. People l nicer to me as anticipated. They were more concerned about my problems. There was an unanticipated degradation of my reputation. "I might come from an abusive home. That is so scary."

Something was not right. Luckily, it was not that bad of an initial lesson. Maybe, I was rescued from arguments when Older Siblings wanted to leave. They might have shared candy. It was alright. My Mom mentioned she and my Father constantly argued. That is why they decided to separate and she married my Step-Father.

Even as a Teen and Adult, I have an odd attraction to witnessing events that do not really harm me. Simultaneously, it is good to help people and concern for others is a beneficial social behavior. Experiences in semi-dangerous situations became an area of personal growth. It is not a determent.

Unfortunately, fear controls many of our actions. We want to perform purposeful actions to avoid finding out if a pathology will be wonderful or neutral. We have control through by simulating things we know are true in a Child's life. We want control so we are able to run to our Children and be happy about finding them. Teaching them to be a better person makes them likable when meeting people at bus stops. They are capable of gaining the neutral outcome of making Friends.