How does a person know when they need a psychologist or psychiatrist? My site explains various degrees of normal behavior, so people know when they are normal, yet sometimes a person gets to a point wherein all the meditations and knowledge hardly provide assistance. This is an appropriate time to seek professional advice. Another reason to seek professional counsel is when feeling the intensity of emotion will overwhelm, causing harm to self or others.
Explaining various issues to get past feeling insignificant or dangerous because of media or erroneous judgments is great. The goal is to place life into perspective before creating issues. Everyone wants to do the best they can, yet sometimes there is a confusing downturn. The meditations on ChaKation do not focus on problems. It focuses on becoming more aware of surroundings so a person becomes better at coping with day-to-day activities and develop the Super Ego based on outcomes.
Problems might be too intense to handle alone and supervision is the only way to start thinking about life. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' "On Grief and Grieving" mentions a story about a woman whose entire family was killed in a sudden car accident. This would be devastating. The recommendation is to separate each grief, giving each loss proper attention.
We do not have to do everything alone. Talking to a psychologist is better than talking to anyone listening. Growing up I encountered someone who watched their best friend get shot. Never knowing how it would feel to have such an experience they entertained thoughts, "It should have been me." One day he will have to embrace all aspect of the thoughts brought about during and after the event. With a large emotional gapes the simplest comments, such as: "Why are you bothering me about this," or "People like the one who shot your friend shouldn't be allowed to live," would be like an echo chamber in their mind.
They might feel apprehensive about everyone's apathy and feel an ever growing desire to tell whole world everything they knew in relation to the event. Perhaps the necessity to save life would end in taking a news network hostage in order to make people listen, forcing them to be less apathetic. The next statement, "People like the one who shot your friend shouldn't be allowed to live," is another potentially dangerous idea when a person is fragile. Will they become a vigilantly, a police officer or a vigilantly police officer who is really no better or worse than the people they subdue.
A psychologist or psychiatrist is able to listen and redirect thoughts as a person vents various aspects of the experience. With a degree we trust they are better than an anonymous person sitting around the park or even a close friend. This is usually true. Find a psychologist or psychiatrist with a physician's referral, even when it is not physical. Talk about the issue with physician during a regular office visit (tested for diabetes, heart problems or sexually transmitted disease) or call the clinic. They will refer you to a specialist.
What kind of redirection can a psychologist offer? In the hypothetical example people want to stop the problem. Hypothetically the shooter was a stalker related to the person. They were the target, yet their best friend was shot. Now they must review all angles of stopping the stalker from shooting anyone and regain control.
Perhaps they should have seen the signs. Learning about psychology and the particular issue does not hurt anyone and might be a rewarding experience. They are able to regain a sense of control and move on. Perhaps they could be nicer; however, that would be like giving into a terrorist. Why should they conform to a hostile person's needs based on threats? Starting to become iffy, it is time to redirect with a few questions. Do you think they had personal control? If you were nicer would they have changed or did you protected other people by not allowing them to be friends? Is their really anything you could have done to alter the situation?
Recognizing if they had been better at recognizing the signs they could have protected themselves against the stalker. Now they must become better and smarter in eliminating all potential threats. How are you going to do that? Become more educated and hunt all these people down before they can kill anyone else. These people also have friends and family so if they die wouldn't that spread more pain to their loved ones? I wouldn't feel so alone and other people would understand. They should want to surrender insane people, so they may die before causing harm to someone else. Isn't there a solution wherein nobody dies?
This is a hypothetical situation with hypothetical responses and redirecting questions; however, it represents what a psychologist or psychiatrist does in the privacy of their office.
People know themselves better than others. If strongly feeling you cannot do it on your own, seek professional advice. Redirect questions save months and years of a person's life when stuck in a memory and trying to regain focus. Another idea is to try out the ChaKation meditation and work on making current life better until finding a worthwhile solution or the pain subsides enough to rehash events and why they were so devastating.
It may take a long time to heal and life continues. While living in the past, there are current people and situations needing attention. This does not mean speeding up the process; it implies waiting until ready to address the past, while acknowledging current goals.
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