Fixing Your Tricycle

Looking at my previous article "Social Tricycles," it makes observations without offering advice. People getting harmed in these systems need immediate help. Trying to change may feel useless, because they are dealing with a larger group of people. Everyone needs therapy, yet trying to control another person's behavior is useless. It is easier to change yourself. People suffer from cutting. It is a psychological addiction to cutting themselves. Each time they cut they risk accidental suicide. How does someone break an addictive cycle?

Families with addictive behavior create characters. Each character performs a part, so the family remains functional: monarch, counselor, glue, hard worker, intellectual, entertainer and so-on. Any of these can suffer self-destructive behavior attempting to fulfill their part. Aware of the dramatic flare of Goths, several are entertainers, so I will address their concerns.

Understanding not everyone has these typecasts individuals may play many roles and have well balanced lives. People forced into roles either perform in a rewarding or self-destructive manner. The entertainer fulfills desire for attention. They become the focal point through quirky and controversial activities. People talk about them amongst their family and friends. Attention is attention whether positive or negative. It doesn't matter. The family goes over to someone's house and talks about the entertainer even when someone else is engaged in a noteworthy activity.

Sometimes glue takes on many roles to protect other members of the group. Glue enters competitions, yet the entertainer remains the focal point of gossip. It is tragic because the entertainer attempts to change or improve their role with growingly disturbing behavior. Incident gather into compelling tales and the family adapted; however, the entertainer is becoming physically and emotionally crippled. There is still hope to turn their life around, yet tales of terror are being promoted more frequently than tales of heroism.

How does a person save themselves from tragedy when it appears everyone is in favor of their demise? The first step is realizing a person is not what other people say. An individual is themselves and most aware of their capabilities.

Next they must form a game plan. Trying to change other people is futile, so try to satisfy the role without further suffering. The entertainer entertains. Figure-out how to entertain while working towards personal goals of survival. Balance activities with satisfying everyone's desire for attention. It works the best when the role takes on heroic qualities.

An optional game plan is to go to college or move out. The family is free to create whatever fictional story they wish in the entertainer's absence, yet the entertainer is busily studying and working. Work a low-key job and join choir. Work anywhere satisfying material and survival issues and then compliment career building activities with something entertaining.

Roles never change. Struggling against everyone increases gossip and no gossip decreases the entertainer's value. It is also possible to excel faster by focusing on one major accomplishment while scattering less time between a few activities. They are already accustomed to entertaining; why not make money to satisfy another role of hard worker? It does not matter if an entertainer can support themselves as long as people are talking to them. They may share cute stories related to their unique associations or accolades from their betters. In any incident it generates positive feelings associated to attention.

Each living person is capable of gaining attention on their own; however, functional and dangerous social structures each person is encouraged to embrace their character. In time other roles become unknown causing anxiety when making changes. Therefore, instead of going against the group reform the character into a productive, fulfilling role and work towards a better future by taking time to live a balanced personal life. One day everyone moves away, yet social bonds do not have spatial distances.

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