A balmy, warm breeze blows through summer air while I am sitting in my chair. I contemplate why mind drifts off to places I have never been to. Even if I made sweetened lemonade in the summer, we didn't have a white picket fence with flowers growing over our porch. That might be a painting I've seen in merchandise items featuring a frame.
Bringing together several topics of Philosology, it is as easy to listen to other people as to yourself. Frequently, it is easier to listen to other people than attempt to fix our problems. There was a popular article stating people who are out-of-control, abusive or venting constantly focus on other people because they unable to fix themselves.
I do not know if this is unable to be disproven. It is an interesting topic. Extroverts are a personality type that focuses on understanding humans and humanity as part of their niche or contribution to society. There are other obvious misconceptions about the scientific study.
Being an extroverted person, I have a lot of conversations with a lot of people. I have thought of the information to develop a correct understanding of communication. There is no need to change myself because increasing this skill makes me a better person. My improvement is getting past my internal struggles to really understand other people.
Even though fixing myself, what is the next step? Should be more people or computer friendly? I should try both and develop skills until an answer becomes clear.
It is possible to identify what people think by what they talk about to other people. It is scary to talk to someone who is defensive or engaged in depressing thought patterns. Part of the problem is feeling threatened. Part of the problem is imagining threats taking place so they are able to build a defense. Half of the conversation reveals hostility. By thinking other people are out to get them, they are creating an offensive or defensive plan.
While this is intimidating, experience diffuses anxiety and creates multiple plans. At work or school, everyday is not a battle. Most people want a better life. Education is important to getting a better job. Work is important to gaining money. Parties are a method to socialize. Most people are nice. We struggle with conflict, develop boundaries and adjust behavior.
It is important to relate. If I just go to work to pay bills, other people go to work to pay bills. There is a common goal. It is weird encountering people who think other people are so different they're crazy. Yet knowing myself, I know they imagining the worst until developing coping skills. They also might not understand there are limitations to workable options resolving life issues.
It is easier to calm down. However, there is a need to also create a defensive plan. People with jobs are known for professionalism. I would not work anywhere that has several stabbings onsite.
Many people are not willing to accept change. Euphoria makes it possible to take the necessary action to work and holding a job means they are tough or outgoing. This statement, from another person, took a while to contemplate. Holding a job is not outgoing. It is extremely normal.
At first, they think people will perceive them as dangerous. They are overly assuming everyone is out to get them and they will embarrass themselves. Then I realize, they are concerned about their reputation. That might be me. Everyone should know that I spend a great deal time meditating about life's philosophy.
Communication is definitely an option. What do you say? It is difficult.
I meet people all-the-time. In high school, there were people I wanted to know better. We would talk at the coffee shop. Sometimes, they are not what I thought or they were mean. I went through a grief cycle. I accepted that we were not going to be good friends.
Some people say it is difficult to go from being acquainted and back to the more loosely defined group of people who coexist. It could be really easy.
We only really talked for less than a day. They probably do not know my eye color. We really did not talk about life. They do not know about childhood traumas, family, lifestyle and so-on. If they were questionably sarcastic, I would think about the content of the sentence. Without a follow up action to derive what they really meant, I still do not know what they were saying. It is fine.
If encountering someone who constantly afraid of other people, the other people may or may not know what is going on.They other people have never heard these rumors. They did not do anything. Telling them the rumor, they are able to talk about the rumor.
Talk to the scared person. Considering most of it is imaginary, they are mostly talking about themselves. There is a thin line between social conscientious and slander.
If finding yourself in a dark place in your mind, another person is always so awful, you can discover ongoing factors affecting your life. You might be doing or saying something hypocritical that causes a negative reaction. Until the behavior is adjusted, you will have the same problems. The adjustment of personal behavior is on the best methods to gain control over your personal life.
The most effective method for gaining confidence in various situations is to go to a safe place in your mind and think about life. It is imaginary. It is also very real. The calm, breezy day with representations of something endearing and a comforting activity are wonderful. Peaceful thoughts encourage peaceful solutions. I go to the refrigerator, get a soda and sit on the couch.
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Tuesday, February 21, 2017
Life Spirals Down
Conflict is has more than one purpose. Some people believe it is only to damage another person. It is really to communicate. In this age of fear, there are people who go to far and have malice in their hearts. I have also felt malice. Then I think. Using a development of ethos, it is easy to diffuse anger and find other methods of diffusing conflict.
Hypothetically, someone is having difficulty. They are in a stressful situation and come from family who have excitable discussions. I am a person whose family is excitable. Of course, being demure, they understand and focus thoughts into a sentence. I take these sentences with seriousness.
There concern for my life choices and how I'm living. This judgment hurts me. Yet, they are worried. Worry is good. It demonstrates a sense of compassion and desire to resolve issues.
This was confusing for during most of my teen life. I went to live with other members of my family to get the amount of freedom and respect I need. There is a risk of danger. However, someone trying to control every aspect of your life is also dangerous.
There are also uncontrollable situations. There is an absence of unjustifiable behavior. People are living. They have a life. I have a life. We have thoughts about life. We have thoughts about goals.
Having not been a different person, I have to go by what I feel is right and also possible. We develop fantasies about the future. Realizing changes are necessary, anger is a predominant feeling when sensing loss.
With a need for conversation, we are not always polite. Having known my family first, it took awhile, I see how arguing becomes a method to resolve issues.
It is odd when encountering someone who does not know this. For whatever reason, they believe people are going to go to the furthest end to resolve conflict. This is false. They have probably gotten into fights and later given hugs to each other.
It is distracting when people build on negative things. Additional aggression joins the conversation. It becomes confusing. During the age of social media, it can be overwhelming.
I remember to be compassionate. Have I ever thought conflict was without end? Yes, it took awhile to ride through the conversation until reaching a compromise or solution. We became more knowledgeable of each other as individuals.
Have I ever felt a loss of a fantasy? Yes, it was difficult. Though not losing anything tangible, the path for gaining my better future did not have a foundation in reality. I did not know the boundaries of my reality. It is difficult to establish. People were judgmental when sharing thoughts about life to gain the missing pieces of the equation. I wanted and needed more empathy.
Have I ever been entertained by other peoples conflicts? Yes, I can be sardonic and useless in finding solutions. I mostly enjoy the on-goings and might never offer assistance to resolve the situation. I find myself giggling as much as anyone while flames build higher.
This is when empathy becomes sympathy. Finding the higher meaning of conflict, there is an intellectual intersection. It is possible to take the information and form it into a method to control the situation. It is possible to start a plan to develop an exit strategy.
Exit strategies are great. It is the notch between conflict and reconciliation.
There is a current situation with two varying factors. They are not related. Developing into a conflict, there are other factors in the world making it difficult to create a compromise.
The first factor is encountering a person that feels good towards me. I blog about a lot of things that help a lot of people. Sometimes, people want to meet or see me in person. They are not the first person. Usually, the intense shock of reality verses fantasy is wearisome, yet controllable.
It is great writing about things on the internet. Truthfully, there is a lot I do not post the internet. I have decided there is a personal incentive of living a better more normal life by following social etiquette.
Recently, someone became a public figure in relation to reading my thoughts on various topics. Yet, things aren't what they seem. Already suffering through stress, there is the immediate shock of another fantasy disappearing while already having problems. Then, it became an open topic.
I have other aspects to my life. As many people know, I was an avid gamer. I have retired and continue to the larger game of living. Occasionally, I act as a master of ceremonies. This assists other players in continuing enjoy playing.
With an annual competition, there is a time where in people can release some hostility into the gaming world. It is a game. People don't really get hurt. It starts and I will need to signal an end so there is closure. This year's closure will be felt with remorseful chimes and bagpipe music.
As a method for larger players to meet, it is an important part of the game. It really is not fun to build and collect inventory. That is similar to a puzzle. Puzzles are entertaining.
Hopefully, with empathy and understanding a very real situation will not be overran by another very real situation. Life is hard. I have taken drastic actions and made promises with only a hope it will workout. I have held everything inside thinking about what to do while other people continue to be callous towards me. They did not even know have a deteriorating affect on my life.
Communication is great. When caught between two forces of motion and immobility, communication is necessary. It isn't always calm and fluid like a script. It is bouncy. Time to think about what is being said. Time to observe what is happening.
Listen with your heart. Empathize to find a mutual feelings about experiences to develop sympathy. Develop a plan between aggressive actions and falling into silence. Experience is the only way to learn and begin to adapt to conflict so it is no longer as threatening.
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Hypothetically, someone is having difficulty. They are in a stressful situation and come from family who have excitable discussions. I am a person whose family is excitable. Of course, being demure, they understand and focus thoughts into a sentence. I take these sentences with seriousness.
There concern for my life choices and how I'm living. This judgment hurts me. Yet, they are worried. Worry is good. It demonstrates a sense of compassion and desire to resolve issues.
This was confusing for during most of my teen life. I went to live with other members of my family to get the amount of freedom and respect I need. There is a risk of danger. However, someone trying to control every aspect of your life is also dangerous.
There are also uncontrollable situations. There is an absence of unjustifiable behavior. People are living. They have a life. I have a life. We have thoughts about life. We have thoughts about goals.
Having not been a different person, I have to go by what I feel is right and also possible. We develop fantasies about the future. Realizing changes are necessary, anger is a predominant feeling when sensing loss.
With a need for conversation, we are not always polite. Having known my family first, it took awhile, I see how arguing becomes a method to resolve issues.
It is odd when encountering someone who does not know this. For whatever reason, they believe people are going to go to the furthest end to resolve conflict. This is false. They have probably gotten into fights and later given hugs to each other.
It is distracting when people build on negative things. Additional aggression joins the conversation. It becomes confusing. During the age of social media, it can be overwhelming.
I remember to be compassionate. Have I ever thought conflict was without end? Yes, it took awhile to ride through the conversation until reaching a compromise or solution. We became more knowledgeable of each other as individuals.
Have I ever felt a loss of a fantasy? Yes, it was difficult. Though not losing anything tangible, the path for gaining my better future did not have a foundation in reality. I did not know the boundaries of my reality. It is difficult to establish. People were judgmental when sharing thoughts about life to gain the missing pieces of the equation. I wanted and needed more empathy.
Have I ever been entertained by other peoples conflicts? Yes, I can be sardonic and useless in finding solutions. I mostly enjoy the on-goings and might never offer assistance to resolve the situation. I find myself giggling as much as anyone while flames build higher.
This is when empathy becomes sympathy. Finding the higher meaning of conflict, there is an intellectual intersection. It is possible to take the information and form it into a method to control the situation. It is possible to start a plan to develop an exit strategy.
Exit strategies are great. It is the notch between conflict and reconciliation.
There is a current situation with two varying factors. They are not related. Developing into a conflict, there are other factors in the world making it difficult to create a compromise.
The first factor is encountering a person that feels good towards me. I blog about a lot of things that help a lot of people. Sometimes, people want to meet or see me in person. They are not the first person. Usually, the intense shock of reality verses fantasy is wearisome, yet controllable.
It is great writing about things on the internet. Truthfully, there is a lot I do not post the internet. I have decided there is a personal incentive of living a better more normal life by following social etiquette.
Recently, someone became a public figure in relation to reading my thoughts on various topics. Yet, things aren't what they seem. Already suffering through stress, there is the immediate shock of another fantasy disappearing while already having problems. Then, it became an open topic.
I have other aspects to my life. As many people know, I was an avid gamer. I have retired and continue to the larger game of living. Occasionally, I act as a master of ceremonies. This assists other players in continuing enjoy playing.
With an annual competition, there is a time where in people can release some hostility into the gaming world. It is a game. People don't really get hurt. It starts and I will need to signal an end so there is closure. This year's closure will be felt with remorseful chimes and bagpipe music.
As a method for larger players to meet, it is an important part of the game. It really is not fun to build and collect inventory. That is similar to a puzzle. Puzzles are entertaining.
Hopefully, with empathy and understanding a very real situation will not be overran by another very real situation. Life is hard. I have taken drastic actions and made promises with only a hope it will workout. I have held everything inside thinking about what to do while other people continue to be callous towards me. They did not even know have a deteriorating affect on my life.
Communication is great. When caught between two forces of motion and immobility, communication is necessary. It isn't always calm and fluid like a script. It is bouncy. Time to think about what is being said. Time to observe what is happening.
Listen with your heart. Empathize to find a mutual feelings about experiences to develop sympathy. Develop a plan between aggressive actions and falling into silence. Experience is the only way to learn and begin to adapt to conflict so it is no longer as threatening.
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Controlling Negative Behavior
Sunday, October 30, 2016
Viva la Sadness
Depression is awkward. Most people think it relates to feeling sad. Depression is not feeling sad. It is feeling useless.
Depression appears in my family at a variety of levels of intensity. I have several signs of physical depression. With sleep apnea and acute arrhythmia, I have always had a weak heart, yet still fall within the normal realms of being physically fit.
A psychologist told me I was normal. A physician told me I have better than average health. Even with this amazing amount of approval, I still feel dreary.
Frequently, my thoughts are negative. I am around other people or at home. The first response is to try to feel better and nullify things that bother me with a joke. I also try to think of the things that are done to make dwelling on short comings less meaningful.
It is awkward. For a few years in high school, I got angry at people for trying to cheer me up. Yet, I work on cheering myself up. It is hypocritical.
Trying to navigate thoughts and feelings, it is fine. Realistically, I am depressed. It is not someone else. There is not an amount of arguing or trying to become comfortable that will change anything.
It was good realizing this. It is easier to gain control over my emotions. Attempting to control everyone's emotions and behavior is overly complicated.
With this constantly in my life, I have learned to deal with it. It might be easier than going through the emotional roller coaster of stress caused depression or medications. Emotions are about the same.
Learning some tricks relating to feeling useless, it is easier to focus on something. Work and activities can change weeks of laying around into weeks of activities. Even if unable to find a job, the garden or house looks great. I can relax with a cup hot chocolate in my fresh smelling room while watching television. Improving tackle sensations around the house creates a sense of wealth. In addition, there is something to look at that distinguish between how I feel versus what I can do.
Thinking about all the things I have done, thoughts lean toward a better perspective on what could happen next. As a depressed thinker, it is easy to move from despondent, overly-critical ideas to motivated, spirited ideas of the future.
It only last so long. I have to be realistic. For whatever reason, realistic is a living portrait of hell.
People sense depression. They want the feeling to go away. I even find myself wanting to think of good things or listen to angry music. Sometimes, it is important to shut everything off and be depressed.
This sounds weird to people. However, a normal person can cry and feel better. What happens to a depressed person?
There are several people that think if they start crying they will never stop. They do not want to listen to depressing music or review depressing thoughts. Is the worst thing that could ever happen be cuddling into a blanket and asking yourself quietly, "What is really bothering me?"
I cry and frequently feel a lot better after wards. Does it matter if you cry for two weeks? Was it better losing your job after getting mad at someone?
I do not do it all in one night. I can pick the time to relax and gain a deeper grasp over my feelings versus real things going on in my life. I feel and think things that might be incorrect. Even identifying the thought and testing it against reality, there is a release from depression. There is a minimum result of clearing my mind to think about how to handle it. Frequently, I decide to live with it. I still feel it is too difficult to overcome. Issues bothering me are on hold or closer to acceptance.
An example of this is feeling plain. I already exercise, avoid wearing clothes with rips and take interest in caring about my appearance. I do not want to do more. I do not want to paint my finger nails or wear makeup every day.
Even when feeling down about not being able to get what I want when I want it, that is selfish. I should accept it like everyone.
I have built a website. I have organized a large social group for people to share and interact with each other. It is not a future hope or iffy dream. It It is better than a dull, lifeless groan plodding from one thing to another. It happens by working on it for awhile occasionally.
During my time doing things, I rapidly get things done. Even in times of severe depression, I have a list of two to four small activities that I create everyday to complete everyday. General hygiene and eating food are a given.
Sometimes a goal is going to an appointment. I will be just a unhappy there as at home. Therefore, I really only had to travel to and from the appointment. In addition to that, I will organize my dresser or send a letter.
That is the real way to make through depression. Feel sad. Let it encompass everything. Sometimes after falling into the deep agonies of crying for a long time, I have perky thought, "I am in love with my sadness." I admit my grasp on reality is overly critical. A functional pace goes somewhere.
Depression appears in my family at a variety of levels of intensity. I have several signs of physical depression. With sleep apnea and acute arrhythmia, I have always had a weak heart, yet still fall within the normal realms of being physically fit.
A psychologist told me I was normal. A physician told me I have better than average health. Even with this amazing amount of approval, I still feel dreary.
Frequently, my thoughts are negative. I am around other people or at home. The first response is to try to feel better and nullify things that bother me with a joke. I also try to think of the things that are done to make dwelling on short comings less meaningful.
It is awkward. For a few years in high school, I got angry at people for trying to cheer me up. Yet, I work on cheering myself up. It is hypocritical.
Trying to navigate thoughts and feelings, it is fine. Realistically, I am depressed. It is not someone else. There is not an amount of arguing or trying to become comfortable that will change anything.
It was good realizing this. It is easier to gain control over my emotions. Attempting to control everyone's emotions and behavior is overly complicated.
With this constantly in my life, I have learned to deal with it. It might be easier than going through the emotional roller coaster of stress caused depression or medications. Emotions are about the same.
Learning some tricks relating to feeling useless, it is easier to focus on something. Work and activities can change weeks of laying around into weeks of activities. Even if unable to find a job, the garden or house looks great. I can relax with a cup hot chocolate in my fresh smelling room while watching television. Improving tackle sensations around the house creates a sense of wealth. In addition, there is something to look at that distinguish between how I feel versus what I can do.
Thinking about all the things I have done, thoughts lean toward a better perspective on what could happen next. As a depressed thinker, it is easy to move from despondent, overly-critical ideas to motivated, spirited ideas of the future.
It only last so long. I have to be realistic. For whatever reason, realistic is a living portrait of hell.
People sense depression. They want the feeling to go away. I even find myself wanting to think of good things or listen to angry music. Sometimes, it is important to shut everything off and be depressed.
This sounds weird to people. However, a normal person can cry and feel better. What happens to a depressed person?
There are several people that think if they start crying they will never stop. They do not want to listen to depressing music or review depressing thoughts. Is the worst thing that could ever happen be cuddling into a blanket and asking yourself quietly, "What is really bothering me?"
I cry and frequently feel a lot better after wards. Does it matter if you cry for two weeks? Was it better losing your job after getting mad at someone?
I do not do it all in one night. I can pick the time to relax and gain a deeper grasp over my feelings versus real things going on in my life. I feel and think things that might be incorrect. Even identifying the thought and testing it against reality, there is a release from depression. There is a minimum result of clearing my mind to think about how to handle it. Frequently, I decide to live with it. I still feel it is too difficult to overcome. Issues bothering me are on hold or closer to acceptance.
An example of this is feeling plain. I already exercise, avoid wearing clothes with rips and take interest in caring about my appearance. I do not want to do more. I do not want to paint my finger nails or wear makeup every day.
Even when feeling down about not being able to get what I want when I want it, that is selfish. I should accept it like everyone.
I have built a website. I have organized a large social group for people to share and interact with each other. It is not a future hope or iffy dream. It It is better than a dull, lifeless groan plodding from one thing to another. It happens by working on it for awhile occasionally.
During my time doing things, I rapidly get things done. Even in times of severe depression, I have a list of two to four small activities that I create everyday to complete everyday. General hygiene and eating food are a given.
Sometimes a goal is going to an appointment. I will be just a unhappy there as at home. Therefore, I really only had to travel to and from the appointment. In addition to that, I will organize my dresser or send a letter.
That is the real way to make through depression. Feel sad. Let it encompass everything. Sometimes after falling into the deep agonies of crying for a long time, I have perky thought, "I am in love with my sadness." I admit my grasp on reality is overly critical. A functional pace goes somewhere.
Saturday, May 21, 2016
Learning to Strive
In the still hours of the day or night, there can be a disruption. It is sudden and shocking. Someone finds themselves mistrustful or another is brutish. It is easy to react with gossip or true feelings of hurt. Someone else is standing there wondering what happened. It is uncomfortable to be a witness.
Feelings stir in the heart and mind, there is an anticipation. People have opinions an understanding they done something inadvertently through tough love, neglect or apathy. What are these opinions?
In the fabricated realms of the mind, the victim or martyr feels they have fought back. However; people have free minds. Many have or will suffer in similar situations. I personally feel awful seeing other people being embarrassed. I sympathize for anyone placed in a hostile spotlight. I might want to ask why. It could be a valid reason. It could be an action taken because of heightened emotion.
Is it alright to be callous or unfeeling? Is it alright to not have an opinion? Most of the time, people formulate ideas of whom is right or wrong. They became overly involved. That is fine. Most of the time, people empathize.
It is good knowing this. In the book "On Grief and Grieving" the author mentions a therapeutic method of explaining that most people empathize with people who storm out or leave abruptly. Embarrassment is intense. They are unable to return. They will not return to the party or to anything associated to the incident or those people.
It is like having to return a purchase. The thrill of buying something is replaced with gazing around wondering if people think you're poor. There are other reasons for the return. It was not what it was supposed to be or defective. Later, you will go back and purchase a similar item. How many people viewed this return?
Life is awkward. We all want to believe everyone took our side. They empathize with us. Truth reveals only fifty percent or less view our actions as good.
It takes personal strength to approach or decide embarrassment will not inhibit actions. I am not referring to unforgivable actions. There are times when personalities and opinions are inharmonious.
The activity of letting things go is essential to life. There is a sincere activity of forgiveness and the activity of challenging other people to forgive when deciding to let go of the past, and continue as though it was nothing. It is uncomfortable. Forgiveness is not guaranteed. Both parties are still hostile or defensive.
There are many reasons for why people say what they say or do what they do. It could be as simple as asking or stating what you honestly think or challenging other people to explain their actions. Conversation could include explaining how you understand their statements or actions.
It would be great if everyone always took my side and always understood without having to explain anything. It would nice to never say sorry. It would be great to not contemplate an appropriate time to say, "I understand;" "I saw what happened and wonder about what happened," or "I know it will be everything will be fine." They are safe. You are safe. I am safe. I do not judge you.
I empathize with people saying things they do not intend to say. I empathize with realizing later was hurtful or not ultimately correct. There was more to consider. Everyone has over-exaggerated or made impulse decisions.
I will think of all the mean people. They walk around judging people and saying mean things. It makes things worse. When it all comes down and they are the ones who are having problems, they will feel worse because they are so mean. Then I snap back to mindfulness and realize, I just want everything to work out. I hope the gap is filled and bridge back to fellowship is repaired.
It hurts seeing other people hurt. It reminds of us of our pain. It is possible to know all of these things by talking to people. It is not always a personal experience. I was surprised when people took words and thoughts I share with the world. They twisted it. They have their minds. I have my mind.
I would like to say. "Relax, it will not matter later." Sometimes it does matter and will affect lives. We all have methods of dealing with situations. Some approach quickly to avoid further problems. I create distance and separate from those who cause avoidable intensity. I still have to go to work. I still have to pursue happiness. It would be great if they respected the silence of mental and emotional distance as a boundary. People get offended by that.
Take life in stride. Find motivation to strive. Figure out when something is territory. It can be a hobby, career or even personal space. How far does personal space extends around us. It is important to share, empathize, be sincere and work to make improvements.
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On Grief and Grieving by Kubler-Ross and Kessler
Feelings stir in the heart and mind, there is an anticipation. People have opinions an understanding they done something inadvertently through tough love, neglect or apathy. What are these opinions?
In the fabricated realms of the mind, the victim or martyr feels they have fought back. However; people have free minds. Many have or will suffer in similar situations. I personally feel awful seeing other people being embarrassed. I sympathize for anyone placed in a hostile spotlight. I might want to ask why. It could be a valid reason. It could be an action taken because of heightened emotion.
Is it alright to be callous or unfeeling? Is it alright to not have an opinion? Most of the time, people formulate ideas of whom is right or wrong. They became overly involved. That is fine. Most of the time, people empathize.
It is good knowing this. In the book "On Grief and Grieving" the author mentions a therapeutic method of explaining that most people empathize with people who storm out or leave abruptly. Embarrassment is intense. They are unable to return. They will not return to the party or to anything associated to the incident or those people.
It is like having to return a purchase. The thrill of buying something is replaced with gazing around wondering if people think you're poor. There are other reasons for the return. It was not what it was supposed to be or defective. Later, you will go back and purchase a similar item. How many people viewed this return?
Life is awkward. We all want to believe everyone took our side. They empathize with us. Truth reveals only fifty percent or less view our actions as good.
It takes personal strength to approach or decide embarrassment will not inhibit actions. I am not referring to unforgivable actions. There are times when personalities and opinions are inharmonious.
The activity of letting things go is essential to life. There is a sincere activity of forgiveness and the activity of challenging other people to forgive when deciding to let go of the past, and continue as though it was nothing. It is uncomfortable. Forgiveness is not guaranteed. Both parties are still hostile or defensive.
There are many reasons for why people say what they say or do what they do. It could be as simple as asking or stating what you honestly think or challenging other people to explain their actions. Conversation could include explaining how you understand their statements or actions.
It would be great if everyone always took my side and always understood without having to explain anything. It would nice to never say sorry. It would be great to not contemplate an appropriate time to say, "I understand;" "I saw what happened and wonder about what happened," or "I know it will be everything will be fine." They are safe. You are safe. I am safe. I do not judge you.
I empathize with people saying things they do not intend to say. I empathize with realizing later was hurtful or not ultimately correct. There was more to consider. Everyone has over-exaggerated or made impulse decisions.
I will think of all the mean people. They walk around judging people and saying mean things. It makes things worse. When it all comes down and they are the ones who are having problems, they will feel worse because they are so mean. Then I snap back to mindfulness and realize, I just want everything to work out. I hope the gap is filled and bridge back to fellowship is repaired.
It hurts seeing other people hurt. It reminds of us of our pain. It is possible to know all of these things by talking to people. It is not always a personal experience. I was surprised when people took words and thoughts I share with the world. They twisted it. They have their minds. I have my mind.
I would like to say. "Relax, it will not matter later." Sometimes it does matter and will affect lives. We all have methods of dealing with situations. Some approach quickly to avoid further problems. I create distance and separate from those who cause avoidable intensity. I still have to go to work. I still have to pursue happiness. It would be great if they respected the silence of mental and emotional distance as a boundary. People get offended by that.
Take life in stride. Find motivation to strive. Figure out when something is territory. It can be a hobby, career or even personal space. How far does personal space extends around us. It is important to share, empathize, be sincere and work to make improvements.
Related Article
Sick All-the-Time
Quirky Books
On Grief and Grieving by Kubler-Ross and Kessler
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
Purposeful Rewards
Talking about subconscious memories and incidental memories affecting a child's life, there is a concern for most Parent's. While being a worthwhile conversation, it stimulates fear. Instead of, focusing on potentially negative impacts, there is a way to establish real-life truths.
Parent's become fearful of all of their Child's experiences. Is there a time a Child gained an obsession after they walked around past dark? After Parents found them at a bus stop, they were rewarded with affirmations. It established a realization that they needed to be more attentive. The event is forgotten. The Child grows up and becomes a Bus Drive, enjoys socializing at bus stops or suffers many traumas from an uncontrollable pathology.
Parents worry about Children. A ruthless fear of death, disease, harm and trauma makes it impossible to throw out a Child who has self-destructive behavior. Some might offer this as a solution. Is it realistic?
Long speeches stemming from fear, abuse, neglect and other issues stem from worry. Sometimes, the self fulfilling prophecy becomes real. A Parent afraid their Child will suffer overcompensates with gifts when the Child misbehaves. They can runaway and lose interest in school. They can engage in casual sex. Parents have inadvertent rewards awful habits. Meanwhile, the Child is engages in life threatening activities to gain better toys and respect.
There are hundreds or thousands experiences while a Child is growing. A parent has to be attentive and aware of what is happening while Children are maturing. Instead of, punishing all experiences or becoming victims of personal fears, a Parent should reward good behavior. It is a good idea to rejoice when finding them at the bus stop. It also teaches a positive example of valuing people.
Reward good behavior creates a realistic life lesson. When a child does chores they get money to buy small candies. Not doing chores results in not having money or asking for money when the ice cream truck goes through the neighborhood.
This is true in life. Doing a job and saving money results in the reward of keeping a job and preparing for opportunities.
When going to a formal party, that is usually boring to a Child, it is fun to play games in the car. Occasionally go to the daycare and take interest in their progress. It is normal to tell the Child when they misbehave. It is important to reward them by acknowledging patience and making friends with a friendly smile and hug. Be openly proud of them not being a nuisance.
Find time to rewards for kindness, understanding, sharing and other respectable qualities. Rewards do not have to be money or things. It can be attention or food.
A parent might have to establish a reward in advance. I will give you $20 for each good grade at the end of the semester. I will take you to a movie if you complete this puzzle. Later in life it becomes, I will help pay for a car if you get good grades. I will give you gift certificates to see a movie with Friends if you talk to your Teacher's about what is required to graduate.
Rewards for doing well and useful behaviors establishes a generous amount of experiences for a Child to establish civility to offset potentially bizarre or unpleasant behaviors. They will also have successful pathologies that are normal to other people with similar successful behaviors.
The one time something went as planned is enough to establish a subconscious, pathological behavior is valid. It took the one time of making a Friend at a bus stop to believe that bus stops are joyous arenas of hope. People greet them with smiles. The Person with an obsession with bus stops interprets this as openness and caring. There an obvious that people have concern for their safety or think they have found someone who is promiscuous.
Many people remember trauma and also negative results when performing an innocent, if not brilliant, activity, unless avoiding trauma. Statistical results reveal that people who suffer from rape or abuse continually repeat the same actions that create the trauma. Sometimes, it is trauma. Sometimes, there are mediocre results. Sometimes, there is a realization of the greater truths in life. It is based on a real life situations.
I remember being about nine or ten years old. My Parents got into a loud argument. They do not usually fight. They yelled. Some dishes fell on the ground. I slept. Neighbors heard it. They talked to me about it before I went to school.
Something happened in my mind. I recall thinking the reward should be better. People l nicer to me as anticipated. They were more concerned about my problems. There was an unanticipated degradation of my reputation. "I might come from an abusive home. That is so scary."
Something was not right. Luckily, it was not that bad of an initial lesson. Maybe, I was rescued from arguments when Older Siblings wanted to leave. They might have shared candy. It was alright. My Mom mentioned she and my Father constantly argued. That is why they decided to separate and she married my Step-Father.
Even as a Teen and Adult, I have an odd attraction to witnessing events that do not really harm me. Simultaneously, it is good to help people and concern for others is a beneficial social behavior. Experiences in semi-dangerous situations became an area of personal growth. It is not a determent.
Unfortunately, fear controls many of our actions. We want to perform purposeful actions to avoid finding out if a pathology will be wonderful or neutral. We have control through by simulating things we know are true in a Child's life. We want control so we are able to run to our Children and be happy about finding them. Teaching them to be a better person makes them likable when meeting people at bus stops. They are capable of gaining the neutral outcome of making Friends.
Parent's become fearful of all of their Child's experiences. Is there a time a Child gained an obsession after they walked around past dark? After Parents found them at a bus stop, they were rewarded with affirmations. It established a realization that they needed to be more attentive. The event is forgotten. The Child grows up and becomes a Bus Drive, enjoys socializing at bus stops or suffers many traumas from an uncontrollable pathology.
Parents worry about Children. A ruthless fear of death, disease, harm and trauma makes it impossible to throw out a Child who has self-destructive behavior. Some might offer this as a solution. Is it realistic?
Long speeches stemming from fear, abuse, neglect and other issues stem from worry. Sometimes, the self fulfilling prophecy becomes real. A Parent afraid their Child will suffer overcompensates with gifts when the Child misbehaves. They can runaway and lose interest in school. They can engage in casual sex. Parents have inadvertent rewards awful habits. Meanwhile, the Child is engages in life threatening activities to gain better toys and respect.
There are hundreds or thousands experiences while a Child is growing. A parent has to be attentive and aware of what is happening while Children are maturing. Instead of, punishing all experiences or becoming victims of personal fears, a Parent should reward good behavior. It is a good idea to rejoice when finding them at the bus stop. It also teaches a positive example of valuing people.
Reward good behavior creates a realistic life lesson. When a child does chores they get money to buy small candies. Not doing chores results in not having money or asking for money when the ice cream truck goes through the neighborhood.
This is true in life. Doing a job and saving money results in the reward of keeping a job and preparing for opportunities.
When going to a formal party, that is usually boring to a Child, it is fun to play games in the car. Occasionally go to the daycare and take interest in their progress. It is normal to tell the Child when they misbehave. It is important to reward them by acknowledging patience and making friends with a friendly smile and hug. Be openly proud of them not being a nuisance.
Find time to rewards for kindness, understanding, sharing and other respectable qualities. Rewards do not have to be money or things. It can be attention or food.
A parent might have to establish a reward in advance. I will give you $20 for each good grade at the end of the semester. I will take you to a movie if you complete this puzzle. Later in life it becomes, I will help pay for a car if you get good grades. I will give you gift certificates to see a movie with Friends if you talk to your Teacher's about what is required to graduate.
Rewards for doing well and useful behaviors establishes a generous amount of experiences for a Child to establish civility to offset potentially bizarre or unpleasant behaviors. They will also have successful pathologies that are normal to other people with similar successful behaviors.
The one time something went as planned is enough to establish a subconscious, pathological behavior is valid. It took the one time of making a Friend at a bus stop to believe that bus stops are joyous arenas of hope. People greet them with smiles. The Person with an obsession with bus stops interprets this as openness and caring. There an obvious that people have concern for their safety or think they have found someone who is promiscuous.
Many people remember trauma and also negative results when performing an innocent, if not brilliant, activity, unless avoiding trauma. Statistical results reveal that people who suffer from rape or abuse continually repeat the same actions that create the trauma. Sometimes, it is trauma. Sometimes, there are mediocre results. Sometimes, there is a realization of the greater truths in life. It is based on a real life situations.
I remember being about nine or ten years old. My Parents got into a loud argument. They do not usually fight. They yelled. Some dishes fell on the ground. I slept. Neighbors heard it. They talked to me about it before I went to school.
Something happened in my mind. I recall thinking the reward should be better. People l nicer to me as anticipated. They were more concerned about my problems. There was an unanticipated degradation of my reputation. "I might come from an abusive home. That is so scary."
Something was not right. Luckily, it was not that bad of an initial lesson. Maybe, I was rescued from arguments when Older Siblings wanted to leave. They might have shared candy. It was alright. My Mom mentioned she and my Father constantly argued. That is why they decided to separate and she married my Step-Father.
Even as a Teen and Adult, I have an odd attraction to witnessing events that do not really harm me. Simultaneously, it is good to help people and concern for others is a beneficial social behavior. Experiences in semi-dangerous situations became an area of personal growth. It is not a determent.
Unfortunately, fear controls many of our actions. We want to perform purposeful actions to avoid finding out if a pathology will be wonderful or neutral. We have control through by simulating things we know are true in a Child's life. We want control so we are able to run to our Children and be happy about finding them. Teaching them to be a better person makes them likable when meeting people at bus stops. They are capable of gaining the neutral outcome of making Friends.
Friday, June 20, 2014
Elevation of Society
Goodwill is important to the functioning of society. It originates in wanting to help another person. The initiation of goodwill produces mores feelings. At first a person may want to reestablish friendship by making sure they pay back goodwill and demonstrate independence. After paying pay back goodwill there is a desire to contribute to helping more people. This completes a cycle of being someone in need to becoming someone who has a desire to help the community.
Thinking about debts, debts can be given in good faith. These debts do not have a strenuous loan payment timetable. These are offerings of assistance to improve another person's life.
Schools have many scholarships. In the United States, public education is paid by taxpayers. Education is important. Higher paying jobs contribute to taxes. This creates an upward development of society and economics.
In college, there are options to give to community colleges and universities. Scholarships and contributions to Students assist Students in graduating. Not everyone needs assistance; however, it develops a relationship with schools. The Community wants the school to succeed so the Community makes more money. As more Students get good jobs, colleges have better reputations. Better reputation affect the Students in the form of graduating from a good school.
I originally went to a Community (Junior) College. It helped me go to a University. The classes were difficult, yet college experience helped navigate classes and class schedules. Credit hours at a University are expensive and miniscule mistakes are costly.
At the Community College, I paid for my tuition. I paid for my own books. Holding a job, I paid for my schooling. There was some assistance from my family. They have an interest in my graduation. They want me to have a better paying job. My obligation for paying for any goodwill or assistance is to my family. That makes families stronger.
The issue of offering goodwill to the Community College is done through freewill. I paid tuition. Do I owe them? What would I get out of giving $10 a month for their goodwill programs? I should want to give goodwill to assist other Students. If Alumni do not contribute to assistance programs, programs disappear. It is difficult for Students to graduate. The society, I live in, becomes less productive with fewer people holding better paying jobs. In addition, demand for educated personnel contributes to Companies being able to hire more people.
I went to University to complete my graduate degree. Since graduating, I have more freedom to try business ideas. A four year degree provides safety. I can go back to work or earn a decent paycheck if needing a job for income. There is less pressure to conform, because there is less worry about my future. The time limit to retirement expands in relation to earning potential.
Though working out loan payments, that have to be paid, the University had an automatic scholarship program for Students who achieve higher grades and standards during the previous semester. There is an additional scholarship for maintaining overall scholastic achievement.
I qualified for this scholarship on several occasions. It made life easier. It helped pay for books and gasoline. Creating a relationship between good grades and not struggling as much, it establishes a rational relationship between doing good work and living better.
It was an automatic system of goodwill. I avoid scholarships and goodwill. I try to handle things formally; however, the act of goodwill makes me think about grants and scholarships later in life.
It was not an immediate reaction. I have been thinking about debts beyond the formal reality of making payments on a loan. You could say I earned it. I met the qualifications. Is it a debt?
I do not want to be in a system of always needing goodwill from people, even family. It is important to achieve freedom and express friendship by maintaining a relationship of equality. This means making payments for the goodwill given to me.
I want to assist in making assistance programs possible, Other Students should have a tuition deduction. Instead of, starting a payment plan (which I am going to start soon) to pay off debt and end the relationship between the University and myself. I will continue contributing to the fund.
Those are the competent and rational realities of goodwill. Each assistance program has a purpose. Contributions are either paying a debt to maintain friendship or contributions to assist society.
There is another level of creating community well-being. This is a fanciful and less reliable activity that exists when contributing to assistance programs, yet people's attitude towards me changes when contributing books to libraries. It might not be fanciful.
If someone says, "Here is money to graduate," we often feel our obligation is fulfilled when graduating. I want my school to do well. Giving goodwill is a measurement of materialistic independence to begin living a happy life.
I imagine contributing to the fund. I receive information about alumni events. I feel purposeful at meetings and there are articles for school newsletters. Later, there is someone going to college. We are friends or relatives. They are treated better and with dignity, even when needing assistance programs, because someone they know contributes to funding.
They are no longer in need of endless assistance. Their life can be better. They are a potential contributor to the success of the school. Though needing assistance for many years, there is good faith of contributing to programs offering assistance to more Students to assist everyone and not be selfish.
Many people focus on one section of the issue. They are primarily concerned with assistance to make money to pay bills. After paying bills, they are not good friends. Being a delinquent part of the community, they might become independently wealthy. Without contributing to community efforts, every generation must reprove themselves; instead of, goodwill existing between themselves, friends and family.
Individuals can be overly giving. They give and wait for people to understand debt or obligation to return goodwill. When people receiving goodwill, people contributing goodwill receive more money. They did not have restriction over when it was time to pay back a bill. They never organized a plan. Only a few out of many people ever think of paying them back with additional goodwill or any goodwill. They still lose money and people paying excessive goodwill feel a burden.
It is good to think about society. Contributions to people make society better. It is also good to maintain a balance between being a "good person" and evaluating financial needs.
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Sin, Guilt, Atonement and Fellowship
Thinking about debts, debts can be given in good faith. These debts do not have a strenuous loan payment timetable. These are offerings of assistance to improve another person's life.
Schools have many scholarships. In the United States, public education is paid by taxpayers. Education is important. Higher paying jobs contribute to taxes. This creates an upward development of society and economics.
In college, there are options to give to community colleges and universities. Scholarships and contributions to Students assist Students in graduating. Not everyone needs assistance; however, it develops a relationship with schools. The Community wants the school to succeed so the Community makes more money. As more Students get good jobs, colleges have better reputations. Better reputation affect the Students in the form of graduating from a good school.
I originally went to a Community (Junior) College. It helped me go to a University. The classes were difficult, yet college experience helped navigate classes and class schedules. Credit hours at a University are expensive and miniscule mistakes are costly.
At the Community College, I paid for my tuition. I paid for my own books. Holding a job, I paid for my schooling. There was some assistance from my family. They have an interest in my graduation. They want me to have a better paying job. My obligation for paying for any goodwill or assistance is to my family. That makes families stronger.
The issue of offering goodwill to the Community College is done through freewill. I paid tuition. Do I owe them? What would I get out of giving $10 a month for their goodwill programs? I should want to give goodwill to assist other Students. If Alumni do not contribute to assistance programs, programs disappear. It is difficult for Students to graduate. The society, I live in, becomes less productive with fewer people holding better paying jobs. In addition, demand for educated personnel contributes to Companies being able to hire more people.
I went to University to complete my graduate degree. Since graduating, I have more freedom to try business ideas. A four year degree provides safety. I can go back to work or earn a decent paycheck if needing a job for income. There is less pressure to conform, because there is less worry about my future. The time limit to retirement expands in relation to earning potential.
Though working out loan payments, that have to be paid, the University had an automatic scholarship program for Students who achieve higher grades and standards during the previous semester. There is an additional scholarship for maintaining overall scholastic achievement.
I qualified for this scholarship on several occasions. It made life easier. It helped pay for books and gasoline. Creating a relationship between good grades and not struggling as much, it establishes a rational relationship between doing good work and living better.
It was an automatic system of goodwill. I avoid scholarships and goodwill. I try to handle things formally; however, the act of goodwill makes me think about grants and scholarships later in life.
It was not an immediate reaction. I have been thinking about debts beyond the formal reality of making payments on a loan. You could say I earned it. I met the qualifications. Is it a debt?
I do not want to be in a system of always needing goodwill from people, even family. It is important to achieve freedom and express friendship by maintaining a relationship of equality. This means making payments for the goodwill given to me.
I want to assist in making assistance programs possible, Other Students should have a tuition deduction. Instead of, starting a payment plan (which I am going to start soon) to pay off debt and end the relationship between the University and myself. I will continue contributing to the fund.
Those are the competent and rational realities of goodwill. Each assistance program has a purpose. Contributions are either paying a debt to maintain friendship or contributions to assist society.
There is another level of creating community well-being. This is a fanciful and less reliable activity that exists when contributing to assistance programs, yet people's attitude towards me changes when contributing books to libraries. It might not be fanciful.
If someone says, "Here is money to graduate," we often feel our obligation is fulfilled when graduating. I want my school to do well. Giving goodwill is a measurement of materialistic independence to begin living a happy life.
I imagine contributing to the fund. I receive information about alumni events. I feel purposeful at meetings and there are articles for school newsletters. Later, there is someone going to college. We are friends or relatives. They are treated better and with dignity, even when needing assistance programs, because someone they know contributes to funding.
They are no longer in need of endless assistance. Their life can be better. They are a potential contributor to the success of the school. Though needing assistance for many years, there is good faith of contributing to programs offering assistance to more Students to assist everyone and not be selfish.
Many people focus on one section of the issue. They are primarily concerned with assistance to make money to pay bills. After paying bills, they are not good friends. Being a delinquent part of the community, they might become independently wealthy. Without contributing to community efforts, every generation must reprove themselves; instead of, goodwill existing between themselves, friends and family.
Individuals can be overly giving. They give and wait for people to understand debt or obligation to return goodwill. When people receiving goodwill, people contributing goodwill receive more money. They did not have restriction over when it was time to pay back a bill. They never organized a plan. Only a few out of many people ever think of paying them back with additional goodwill or any goodwill. They still lose money and people paying excessive goodwill feel a burden.
It is good to think about society. Contributions to people make society better. It is also good to maintain a balance between being a "good person" and evaluating financial needs.
Related Article
Financial Adulthood
Melancholy Summer
Sin, Guilt, Atonement and Fellowship
Monday, April 21, 2014
Social Changes
There is a functionality of changing society when society no longer functions. I imagine, previous to arranged marriage, people married when it was time to marry. For various reasons, maybe a lack of understanding the importance of a two parents household, arranged marriage became important. This was a good idea and then it became obsolete.
Through many years manipulation was important to ensure marriages were honored. Society created many boundaries to marriage in the form of men earning money and women remaining faithful. This was faulty, yet arranged marriage overrides any idealistic opinions about the best, most logical method to live a good life according to successful people.
Now that arranged marriage is in the process of removal, people struggle to marry. Life is not perfect. When is a person ready to marry?
There is a story of Teens growing up in the same town. They are platonic and are unsure about who to marry. A Priest made them stand, in a line, according to height. He pointed at them. The selection was based completely on height ratios. They got married.
Since they were friends, there was a good chance the marriage would be functional. A few couples celebrated their fiftieth anniversary. Others divorced and had to remarry. It was better then randomly selecting a Spouse. Though it is not perfect, no one knows the future.
There are good aspects of arranged marriage. There is no obvious method of finding an ultimately perfect solution to all problems. There are some aspects of arranged marriage that create problems when people want to make commitments. We do not want to undo past solutions. It resolved other issues. We must observe and find what is ineffective and find a livable solution.
A few decades ago, it was observed that overly defined gender roles are cumbersome. It is true men enjoy working and going on adventures. Men do not go through pregnancy and childbirth. Men want to participate in raising Children.
Women prefer staying home and raising children. After a child is born, there is a personal conflict between going to work or watching children. Women enjoy planned adventures.
It seems obvious. Men go to work. Women stay home. Men know their wives are watching the Children. Children are safe and happy. Men work to contribute to society. The family has money and social acceptance to create opportunities. This assists in creating a lineage of successful families.
Is everyone happy?
Men have to spend the greater part of their lives at work. It might not be until their Son or Daughter is in college before having a regular shift, so it is possible to be home every evening. There is a rigid stereotype stating men like working and doing things. There are strong indicators that men are nurturing and would like to actively raise Children.
Women have the job of protecting the home and Children. It is a good occupation that pays through the success of raising efficient Children who will care for their Parents and continue their lineage. I believe resentment creates a dismissive attitude towards woman's work.
Since a woman should be able to understand raising Children, it is no longer important to seek education or contribute to society. It is only important to protect the family.
This created another problem with society. Without women to police Women, Women can become lawless. Their lawlessness has a consequence. Women feel ignored. There were no Women to share information and create a realistic, ethical viewpoint about life.
It became unimportant for Women to be educated. Women raise Children though natural instinct. Without education, Children become Adults; however, what kind of a person do they become?
Though a slow progression, there is an observable decline in social standards. Psychologist's created many questionnaires and verified theories. After theories identified most children were abused, by at least one parent as a reaction to a lack of knowledge, reporting various crimes became common in the United States. Eventually, it was decided the old system of work and home was faulty.
Initially, the concept of Women holding jobs was so Single Women with Children could support their families or be more attractive to Men. These Women are better. They contribute to society and raising a family. They are also able to protect themselves by making money at work.
This escape plan is aggressive. Now society is fluctuating between gender roles. When observing what is really bothering everyone, it is possible to see other plans.
Thinking about the issue, Women should have an option to gain high-paying jobs that only require 25 to 30 hours a week. This should be available to Men and Women to promote equality between genders.
What it accomplishes is making it possible for a Man to work full-time and a Woman to work part-time without feeling inhibitions. A Man no longer has to work a full-time and part-time job for the duration of their Child's life.
A two parent household has the option for one Parent to work full-time while they other Parent works part-time. There is a Parent at home. Those preferring the old systems of maintaining a family are available to offer daycare service. It is easier to trust a long-time Friend or Family Member.
It might not be the absolute solution, yet it addresses most problems. This shifting from one extreme to another is awkward and unsettling. This is how societies become better with time. Expectations are too high or too low. Without a planning and experimental process, it is difficult to identify problems bothering everyone. Unfortunately, a perfect solution will not by found during my lifetime. There will be more observable problems, yet it could be better now.
Related Article
Forgive verses Strict
Through many years manipulation was important to ensure marriages were honored. Society created many boundaries to marriage in the form of men earning money and women remaining faithful. This was faulty, yet arranged marriage overrides any idealistic opinions about the best, most logical method to live a good life according to successful people.
Now that arranged marriage is in the process of removal, people struggle to marry. Life is not perfect. When is a person ready to marry?
There is a story of Teens growing up in the same town. They are platonic and are unsure about who to marry. A Priest made them stand, in a line, according to height. He pointed at them. The selection was based completely on height ratios. They got married.
Since they were friends, there was a good chance the marriage would be functional. A few couples celebrated their fiftieth anniversary. Others divorced and had to remarry. It was better then randomly selecting a Spouse. Though it is not perfect, no one knows the future.
There are good aspects of arranged marriage. There is no obvious method of finding an ultimately perfect solution to all problems. There are some aspects of arranged marriage that create problems when people want to make commitments. We do not want to undo past solutions. It resolved other issues. We must observe and find what is ineffective and find a livable solution.
A few decades ago, it was observed that overly defined gender roles are cumbersome. It is true men enjoy working and going on adventures. Men do not go through pregnancy and childbirth. Men want to participate in raising Children.
Women prefer staying home and raising children. After a child is born, there is a personal conflict between going to work or watching children. Women enjoy planned adventures.
It seems obvious. Men go to work. Women stay home. Men know their wives are watching the Children. Children are safe and happy. Men work to contribute to society. The family has money and social acceptance to create opportunities. This assists in creating a lineage of successful families.
Is everyone happy?
Men have to spend the greater part of their lives at work. It might not be until their Son or Daughter is in college before having a regular shift, so it is possible to be home every evening. There is a rigid stereotype stating men like working and doing things. There are strong indicators that men are nurturing and would like to actively raise Children.
Women have the job of protecting the home and Children. It is a good occupation that pays through the success of raising efficient Children who will care for their Parents and continue their lineage. I believe resentment creates a dismissive attitude towards woman's work.
Since a woman should be able to understand raising Children, it is no longer important to seek education or contribute to society. It is only important to protect the family.
This created another problem with society. Without women to police Women, Women can become lawless. Their lawlessness has a consequence. Women feel ignored. There were no Women to share information and create a realistic, ethical viewpoint about life.
It became unimportant for Women to be educated. Women raise Children though natural instinct. Without education, Children become Adults; however, what kind of a person do they become?
Though a slow progression, there is an observable decline in social standards. Psychologist's created many questionnaires and verified theories. After theories identified most children were abused, by at least one parent as a reaction to a lack of knowledge, reporting various crimes became common in the United States. Eventually, it was decided the old system of work and home was faulty.
Initially, the concept of Women holding jobs was so Single Women with Children could support their families or be more attractive to Men. These Women are better. They contribute to society and raising a family. They are also able to protect themselves by making money at work.
This escape plan is aggressive. Now society is fluctuating between gender roles. When observing what is really bothering everyone, it is possible to see other plans.
Thinking about the issue, Women should have an option to gain high-paying jobs that only require 25 to 30 hours a week. This should be available to Men and Women to promote equality between genders.
What it accomplishes is making it possible for a Man to work full-time and a Woman to work part-time without feeling inhibitions. A Man no longer has to work a full-time and part-time job for the duration of their Child's life.
A two parent household has the option for one Parent to work full-time while they other Parent works part-time. There is a Parent at home. Those preferring the old systems of maintaining a family are available to offer daycare service. It is easier to trust a long-time Friend or Family Member.
It might not be the absolute solution, yet it addresses most problems. This shifting from one extreme to another is awkward and unsettling. This is how societies become better with time. Expectations are too high or too low. Without a planning and experimental process, it is difficult to identify problems bothering everyone. Unfortunately, a perfect solution will not by found during my lifetime. There will be more observable problems, yet it could be better now.
Related Article
Forgive verses Strict
Monday, February 17, 2014
Thoughts about Philosology
Thinking of many things, I thought of something to summarize several main concepts on this site. It is not so much about Existentialism as having an understanding that we are on our own and anything that is not death is experience.
I dislike baby-carriage laws. These laws state by helping someone you become liable. It is better to not help anyone. Even when in a crowd, there is a chance no one will help. If assistance is faulty, whoever tried to help is wrong.
This makes it so someone attempting rape, despite several other people are nearby, you should fight back. There is a good chance you might be alone. Reliance on other people should be minimal.
Trauma and risks are dangerous. I entertain a lively crowd of people who constantly take risks. Even now, I am taking risk by deciding to write blogs. It is not really known as a stable market. The internet is improving and has helps an existing careers. I cannot think of anyone who actually made a lot of money on just the internet. They had to go to school and worked for an extensive time. Even the most internet friendly Salesperson, I can think of, spent years working in Sales while developing a network integrated website to pay bills. They still have to go to meetings and make face-to-face contact with several people.
Why does anyone feel propelled to help another person? It needs to be done. When there is no direct threat to personal safety, it is easier to talk about life and give advice. It is also important to not misrepresent products or services. I never said I was a Psychologist. Psychologist are also unable to save the lives of everyone.
Any advice anyone can offer is a miniscule part of someone overall life and experience. Thinking about frostbite, someone might decide the person telling them about frostbite is responsible for giving them frostbite. They already had frostbite. Advice helped them get medical attention.
Imagine someone drinking a warm glass of water. It feels as though it burns. They know a person can burn themselves on food or drink that exceeds 120 degrees Fahrenheit. They went to school to learn about safe living conditions in cold climates. They have Family and Friends who see them everyday. When water feels too hot, is the person who said, "You might have frostbite," responsible?
This person is someone who is an acquaintance. They see them in passing once-in-awhile. It could be at work or around the neighborhood.
Facts are the person suffering from frostbite is already frozen. They spent all winter without proper clothing or worry about the freezing cold temperatures. They thought they became super human. Cold air no longer bothers them. The water was not boiling, it was temped.
What happened to Family and Friends? Why did they not see the signs? After immature jokes about looking splotchy and being magical because the cold does not bother them, Family and Friends are also freezing to death. They did not see the signs. They are also unable to interpret the information. They did not buy more blankets or get warm winter clothing.
We can try to blame other people for problems. Many want to blame everyone around them after realizing a traumatic experience occurs. Suddenly there is an issue without answers. There are tasks to complete in order to avoid being close to the edge of death. It seems like it is this huge time consuming problem; however, it is preoccupying their mind. No one is making them think about it repeatedly. They need to have awareness of frostbite and think of a plan to avoid future problems. Several levels of existing methods of protection fail. Family and Friends are suddenly useless for protection. Life has a new dedication to resolve one issue.
Is the problem that big? It is because something threatening to life is happening. It seems as though it is all consuming problem. Life continues and you cannot forget lessons from past experiences. Except, the trauma or advice that causes awareness of a problem is a dot on a painting.
The overall life of a person is extensive. What makes that one dot spread and become an entire painting with trees, sky and waterfalls continually obsessing over the problem. It could be a painting of many near death experiences and continuing with life. It could be a tragic painting of confusion and fear.
This blog will not completely change a person's life. No one book, article or life experience will completely change a person's life. Taking the wrong advice or having trouble with the right advice will not completely change a person's life. Time is an ongoing event. We choose the best solution when a decision had to be made. We live and then modify the plan with a new decision. Events unfold according to new actions.
Everything is negotiable. There is always time to modify plans and make better decisions. It flows in a continuous order from one stage of life to the next.
After having frostbite, you will react more quickly in the future. There are books explaining several techniques to stay warm. That was not always true.
There was a time when people died in winter and no one knew why. Religions were made around finding something that helps. It seemed magical. Build your home with windows and doors to the south. It will bring you luck and prosperity. It will infuse you will energy and livelihood. Anyone building homes with stronger walls towards the cold northern air opened their doors to the southern air. It is only slightly warmer, yet they lived longer and fewer family members died.
It would be nice if no one suffered. We all suffer sometime. We are given infinite amounts of information. Some of it is useless. There is not as much reason to remember when it is trivial. There are many things in life that have no answer or cure. We are able to make problems less awful. We are always where we are all-the-time. It feels good to know there is always someone around who can defend me, even when that person is me.
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I dislike baby-carriage laws. These laws state by helping someone you become liable. It is better to not help anyone. Even when in a crowd, there is a chance no one will help. If assistance is faulty, whoever tried to help is wrong.
This makes it so someone attempting rape, despite several other people are nearby, you should fight back. There is a good chance you might be alone. Reliance on other people should be minimal.
Trauma and risks are dangerous. I entertain a lively crowd of people who constantly take risks. Even now, I am taking risk by deciding to write blogs. It is not really known as a stable market. The internet is improving and has helps an existing careers. I cannot think of anyone who actually made a lot of money on just the internet. They had to go to school and worked for an extensive time. Even the most internet friendly Salesperson, I can think of, spent years working in Sales while developing a network integrated website to pay bills. They still have to go to meetings and make face-to-face contact with several people.
Why does anyone feel propelled to help another person? It needs to be done. When there is no direct threat to personal safety, it is easier to talk about life and give advice. It is also important to not misrepresent products or services. I never said I was a Psychologist. Psychologist are also unable to save the lives of everyone.
Any advice anyone can offer is a miniscule part of someone overall life and experience. Thinking about frostbite, someone might decide the person telling them about frostbite is responsible for giving them frostbite. They already had frostbite. Advice helped them get medical attention.
Imagine someone drinking a warm glass of water. It feels as though it burns. They know a person can burn themselves on food or drink that exceeds 120 degrees Fahrenheit. They went to school to learn about safe living conditions in cold climates. They have Family and Friends who see them everyday. When water feels too hot, is the person who said, "You might have frostbite," responsible?
This person is someone who is an acquaintance. They see them in passing once-in-awhile. It could be at work or around the neighborhood.
Facts are the person suffering from frostbite is already frozen. They spent all winter without proper clothing or worry about the freezing cold temperatures. They thought they became super human. Cold air no longer bothers them. The water was not boiling, it was temped.
What happened to Family and Friends? Why did they not see the signs? After immature jokes about looking splotchy and being magical because the cold does not bother them, Family and Friends are also freezing to death. They did not see the signs. They are also unable to interpret the information. They did not buy more blankets or get warm winter clothing.
We can try to blame other people for problems. Many want to blame everyone around them after realizing a traumatic experience occurs. Suddenly there is an issue without answers. There are tasks to complete in order to avoid being close to the edge of death. It seems like it is this huge time consuming problem; however, it is preoccupying their mind. No one is making them think about it repeatedly. They need to have awareness of frostbite and think of a plan to avoid future problems. Several levels of existing methods of protection fail. Family and Friends are suddenly useless for protection. Life has a new dedication to resolve one issue.
Is the problem that big? It is because something threatening to life is happening. It seems as though it is all consuming problem. Life continues and you cannot forget lessons from past experiences. Except, the trauma or advice that causes awareness of a problem is a dot on a painting.
The overall life of a person is extensive. What makes that one dot spread and become an entire painting with trees, sky and waterfalls continually obsessing over the problem. It could be a painting of many near death experiences and continuing with life. It could be a tragic painting of confusion and fear.
This blog will not completely change a person's life. No one book, article or life experience will completely change a person's life. Taking the wrong advice or having trouble with the right advice will not completely change a person's life. Time is an ongoing event. We choose the best solution when a decision had to be made. We live and then modify the plan with a new decision. Events unfold according to new actions.
Everything is negotiable. There is always time to modify plans and make better decisions. It flows in a continuous order from one stage of life to the next.
After having frostbite, you will react more quickly in the future. There are books explaining several techniques to stay warm. That was not always true.
There was a time when people died in winter and no one knew why. Religions were made around finding something that helps. It seemed magical. Build your home with windows and doors to the south. It will bring you luck and prosperity. It will infuse you will energy and livelihood. Anyone building homes with stronger walls towards the cold northern air opened their doors to the southern air. It is only slightly warmer, yet they lived longer and fewer family members died.
It would be nice if no one suffered. We all suffer sometime. We are given infinite amounts of information. Some of it is useless. There is not as much reason to remember when it is trivial. There are many things in life that have no answer or cure. We are able to make problems less awful. We are always where we are all-the-time. It feels good to know there is always someone around who can defend me, even when that person is me.
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Monday, February 3, 2014
Philosophy verses Way of Life
Religion, philosophy and theology are frequently thought of similarly. There are differences between each and while it is easier to have a cross-category when indexing topics, Individuals relate to religion, philosophy and theology differently. Incorrect reference angers people.
Religion is a way of life. It is similar to walking on train tracks. A person should not walk on train tracks. We might not have seen the train, yet we know to walk by the sides of the train tracks.
It might be important to walk on the train tracks when crossing over a gully or river. We hurry over the train tracks. The train might arrive soon and we will have to jump into harm or danger.
When something is a religion, it is important to acknowledge the importance of doing or not doing something. It does not have to be a Judaic religion. It is any philosophy that has wisdom to avoid harm or danger. When someone calls their religion a philosophy, it is insulting. It minimizes the value of beliefs and questions personal knowledge of how to live well.
Philosophy is a collection of wisdom that is negotiable. They are thoughts about life and noticing truths about the world. It is the sharing of deductive insight.
A collection of wisdom has limitation. It frequently has broad horizons or it is not truthful for many people. Even when truthful for most people, it is a negotiable wisdom.
Philosophical Writers observe truth in their lives. Their lives might be substantially different from their Readers lives. The Reader will observe untruths and no longer value advice. However, Readers who observe truth find finer aspects of dealing with life that are beneficial to themselves.
One philosophy involves people's need to achieve dreams or be useful. Dreams are motivational. It helps everyone wake in the morning and find purpose for living. There are adages to find our dreams and love conquers all. Then there is a realistic application to finding dreams.
Bringing a dream into reality is important. Martin Luther King Junior had a dream. He wanted equal rights for everyone in the United States. He felt this dream is found through religion. By being a better person and avoiding conflict, there is less conflict and more opportunities.
This went well for several years and is true today. Many people have found work through loyalty and politeness. This is not just Afro-Americans. Unfortunately, while being nice should have a reward, many people are prone to test boundaries. Without personal boundaries, they tend to continue to oppress Individuals with judgments and erroneous perceptions.
The next part of the dream becoming reality was Malcolm X. He was born a Christian and became a Follower of Islam. With many problems, Employers thought they found people who would work for any amount of money. They did not need to care about honoring contracts. Unions were pressuring companies into offer better wages and benefits. The perception was that Afro-Americans would not defend themselves. Afro-Americans also became victims of petty crimes.
Malcolm X found a method to demand respect without harming people or Afro-American reputations. With assistance from the NAACP, when a person was wrongly imprisoned or attacked without cause lawsuits redetermined the course of events. This was a show of force, yet it is an understandable show of force. Through action and wisdom, a dream becomes reality.
Does this work for everyone? It does not work for everyone. This is not always a stable method of dealing with life. Individuals without oppression appears snobbish or aggressive.
Has some called a woman of a specific race being stupid or slutty? It is a sign that men are not protecting woman and other men are attempting to ruin reputations. There is a chance that if they are not in complete ruin. They have decided defense is unimportant or will cause many problems.
They begin defending themselves more through legal action and clarify facts when there is no longer an incentive to behave. Enemies or Oppressors do not have empathy or want specific groups of people to fail. They must defend themselves through assertive actions and sometimes threaten separation from other nationalities.
After this happens another race becomes a target. People experience gossip, cruelty and harassment for creed, lifestyle, sexual orientation, music preferences, fashion preferences and other none valid methods of critique currently. There is reason to have fear and reason to defend themselves. Unfortunately, acknowledgment of an action has consequences does not happen until after Formerly Oppressed Group retaliates.
Theology is the studying of religion as though it were a philosophy. There are parts of theology that inhibit studies. Anything other than Christianity is often given the title of "cult." Several religions are not cults. The minds creating the philosophy of theology place their beliefs above other religions. Since it is not a valid way of life for everyone, it is a philosophy.
Theology attempts to identify truths of life by studying ancient wisdom. It is awkward how Grecian-Roman philosophy is truth and not a cult. The most Influential Group determining right and wrong are from a Grecian-Roman belief system. Grecian and Roman were both Pagans before altering religion to conform with Judaic Law. This infusion became Catholicism. Many Christian sects dismiss Catholicism and Judaism as a cult, yet Socrates is perfection.
This paradox makes a person realize theology is a historical record or index of religious thoughts. An Individual is able to sort through the information to confirm or improve religious belief.
It is easier to prepare for life when there is an advance warning of potential harm or danger. No one enjoys feeling as though they jump from death to have potential for harm or death. We want to learn from wisdom and find stability through religion. We should respect everyone's way of life. Several non-christian religions have enormous populations of Healthy Individuals. There is proof their religion is ethical and moral.
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Religion is a way of life. It is similar to walking on train tracks. A person should not walk on train tracks. We might not have seen the train, yet we know to walk by the sides of the train tracks.
It might be important to walk on the train tracks when crossing over a gully or river. We hurry over the train tracks. The train might arrive soon and we will have to jump into harm or danger.
When something is a religion, it is important to acknowledge the importance of doing or not doing something. It does not have to be a Judaic religion. It is any philosophy that has wisdom to avoid harm or danger. When someone calls their religion a philosophy, it is insulting. It minimizes the value of beliefs and questions personal knowledge of how to live well.
Philosophy is a collection of wisdom that is negotiable. They are thoughts about life and noticing truths about the world. It is the sharing of deductive insight.
A collection of wisdom has limitation. It frequently has broad horizons or it is not truthful for many people. Even when truthful for most people, it is a negotiable wisdom.
Philosophical Writers observe truth in their lives. Their lives might be substantially different from their Readers lives. The Reader will observe untruths and no longer value advice. However, Readers who observe truth find finer aspects of dealing with life that are beneficial to themselves.
One philosophy involves people's need to achieve dreams or be useful. Dreams are motivational. It helps everyone wake in the morning and find purpose for living. There are adages to find our dreams and love conquers all. Then there is a realistic application to finding dreams.
Bringing a dream into reality is important. Martin Luther King Junior had a dream. He wanted equal rights for everyone in the United States. He felt this dream is found through religion. By being a better person and avoiding conflict, there is less conflict and more opportunities.
This went well for several years and is true today. Many people have found work through loyalty and politeness. This is not just Afro-Americans. Unfortunately, while being nice should have a reward, many people are prone to test boundaries. Without personal boundaries, they tend to continue to oppress Individuals with judgments and erroneous perceptions.
The next part of the dream becoming reality was Malcolm X. He was born a Christian and became a Follower of Islam. With many problems, Employers thought they found people who would work for any amount of money. They did not need to care about honoring contracts. Unions were pressuring companies into offer better wages and benefits. The perception was that Afro-Americans would not defend themselves. Afro-Americans also became victims of petty crimes.
Malcolm X found a method to demand respect without harming people or Afro-American reputations. With assistance from the NAACP, when a person was wrongly imprisoned or attacked without cause lawsuits redetermined the course of events. This was a show of force, yet it is an understandable show of force. Through action and wisdom, a dream becomes reality.
Does this work for everyone? It does not work for everyone. This is not always a stable method of dealing with life. Individuals without oppression appears snobbish or aggressive.
Has some called a woman of a specific race being stupid or slutty? It is a sign that men are not protecting woman and other men are attempting to ruin reputations. There is a chance that if they are not in complete ruin. They have decided defense is unimportant or will cause many problems.
They begin defending themselves more through legal action and clarify facts when there is no longer an incentive to behave. Enemies or Oppressors do not have empathy or want specific groups of people to fail. They must defend themselves through assertive actions and sometimes threaten separation from other nationalities.
After this happens another race becomes a target. People experience gossip, cruelty and harassment for creed, lifestyle, sexual orientation, music preferences, fashion preferences and other none valid methods of critique currently. There is reason to have fear and reason to defend themselves. Unfortunately, acknowledgment of an action has consequences does not happen until after Formerly Oppressed Group retaliates.
Theology is the studying of religion as though it were a philosophy. There are parts of theology that inhibit studies. Anything other than Christianity is often given the title of "cult." Several religions are not cults. The minds creating the philosophy of theology place their beliefs above other religions. Since it is not a valid way of life for everyone, it is a philosophy.
Theology attempts to identify truths of life by studying ancient wisdom. It is awkward how Grecian-Roman philosophy is truth and not a cult. The most Influential Group determining right and wrong are from a Grecian-Roman belief system. Grecian and Roman were both Pagans before altering religion to conform with Judaic Law. This infusion became Catholicism. Many Christian sects dismiss Catholicism and Judaism as a cult, yet Socrates is perfection.
This paradox makes a person realize theology is a historical record or index of religious thoughts. An Individual is able to sort through the information to confirm or improve religious belief.
It is easier to prepare for life when there is an advance warning of potential harm or danger. No one enjoys feeling as though they jump from death to have potential for harm or death. We want to learn from wisdom and find stability through religion. We should respect everyone's way of life. Several non-christian religions have enormous populations of Healthy Individuals. There is proof their religion is ethical and moral.
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Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Social Complications
Today I am reflecting on relationships and respect.
My blog and art has an orientation towards college preparatory and university life. I went to college, had work experience and had time to think about experiences. Ergo, while having been around sixteen to twenty-five, I am older.
It reminds me of the college coffee shop when going to the community college. It was fun for all of us, yet the man who owns the business was about retirement age. Allowing smoking, in Utah, a business must have a license to become a club that allows smoking.
Most people were around the same age. It is nice to socialize. There was a problem with Older People.
Older People are the Business Owners Friends. They felt they have more rights to be there. The orientation of the business makes College Age People feel; they have more rights.
I can imagine his thoughts over the issue. There is a desire to want to continue a business. This means appealing to Younger People. Without new Customers, from wherever they come from or whatever age they are, a business eventually dies.
I do not think having Older People around was an issue. Some of the Older People were single. This means, on occasion, they want to talk with everyone to be a part of the crowd. They also want to know about potential for relationships.
I do not mind making friends and talking to people. I do mind when someone is not understanding. I do not want a relationship with them.
It is not so much about being older. There are people around with more similarities. They are in college and thinking about the future. It is topical to think about the future more than the past. People my own age are more interesting.
Their music knowledge is great. They can play fun games like thinking about one-hit-wonders from the 80s. I feel lost in the conversation. Is it alright to snub people who you will be in contact with on a regular basis?
It is not alright. It is important to maintain respect. If someone from work told me when to go to the club, because everyone is hanging out, it would be incredibly rude to avoid them. I might not want to go. It is weird spending personal time with people from work. What if it is overly revealing?
I do not have to lose myself. It is possible to maintain a professional demeanor. There is a large misunderstanding about scene and bar life in the United States. It is not an outpost to find promiscuity and thrills.
Scene life stems from Hispanic Culture. When someone goes to a to a nightclub, it is a social outlet to meet people. The motivations are to talk about life in a nonthreatening environment. Some people want to meet Business Partners or advertise clothes. Some want to view interesting clothing or potential for outfits in a non-formal venue. It is a good place to do business.
Sometimes people bring Family or Friends. Sometimes people want to meet a respectable person to date and eventually marry. Formality is similar to a Sunday picnic at the park.
When I had an interest in Modeling; it made sense to go the nightclub. I could wear outrageous outfits. It is fun dancing. I try to be nice. I am not there to "hookup" with people. When a nightclub becomes popular no one wants to go anymore. It is icky.
Gossip about low moral standards is more interesting. I initially thought, "You are here. Why are you so judgmental?" Realizing there is a larger influx of people who have low morality, they are not there for the same reason
Once again, I find myself in a similar predicament. Life experience builds on itself to prepare someone for their future. There is a time to make greats mistakes or avoid getting in huge ongoing problems.
I have a couple of thoughts. I am avoiding dating anyone younger than me. I am single and need to have more online friends who are around the same age. I do not want to create a conflict.
I dated men who were younger than me. It was awkward. They have idea of what someone "my age" would want in a relationship. It is not mean by intention. A relationship is difficult.
I would let someone know my age before making commitments. There was someone who needed to know my age to know whether to be aloof or dominate. They wanted me to move in and have a relationship. We did not do more than hug. He was overly ready for next stages of the relationship.
Realistically, the Older Person has to be more responsible. Men and Women have different issues around being a respectable person. This means having a greater understanding of how actions have effects and attempting to find a suitable method for everyone to be happy.
This does not make someone a genius. An amount of consideration between people around the same age is not as important. Everyone is equally ignorant. This makes life easier. There are social roles. Regardless of intent, damage to a person's reputation or creating ongoing problems for another person, consequences makes them less trustworthy in the future.
Time to evaluate the potential for a long-term relationship is important. I do not want to be "that kind of person." If feeling the relationship will not last for a few years, there should be an evaluation of the relationship. No one can completely know each other, yet the evaluation process should be extensive.
The previously mentioned guy was too pushy. As a High-Pressure Salesperson, I imagine him always trying to talk me into something for the rest of my life. It was better to realize this before becoming emotional involvement.
I am not trying to deduce another culture for my Peer Group. I went to college and found a career. As old as I might become, I do not want to be "that kind of person." I imagine trying to be clever while seventy years old. I might not know enough about current trends. Regardless of time, there are issues that are universal and always true. It is important to be respectful of everyone.
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My blog and art has an orientation towards college preparatory and university life. I went to college, had work experience and had time to think about experiences. Ergo, while having been around sixteen to twenty-five, I am older.
It reminds me of the college coffee shop when going to the community college. It was fun for all of us, yet the man who owns the business was about retirement age. Allowing smoking, in Utah, a business must have a license to become a club that allows smoking.
Most people were around the same age. It is nice to socialize. There was a problem with Older People.
Older People are the Business Owners Friends. They felt they have more rights to be there. The orientation of the business makes College Age People feel; they have more rights.
I can imagine his thoughts over the issue. There is a desire to want to continue a business. This means appealing to Younger People. Without new Customers, from wherever they come from or whatever age they are, a business eventually dies.
I do not think having Older People around was an issue. Some of the Older People were single. This means, on occasion, they want to talk with everyone to be a part of the crowd. They also want to know about potential for relationships.
I do not mind making friends and talking to people. I do mind when someone is not understanding. I do not want a relationship with them.
It is not so much about being older. There are people around with more similarities. They are in college and thinking about the future. It is topical to think about the future more than the past. People my own age are more interesting.
Their music knowledge is great. They can play fun games like thinking about one-hit-wonders from the 80s. I feel lost in the conversation. Is it alright to snub people who you will be in contact with on a regular basis?
It is not alright. It is important to maintain respect. If someone from work told me when to go to the club, because everyone is hanging out, it would be incredibly rude to avoid them. I might not want to go. It is weird spending personal time with people from work. What if it is overly revealing?
I do not have to lose myself. It is possible to maintain a professional demeanor. There is a large misunderstanding about scene and bar life in the United States. It is not an outpost to find promiscuity and thrills.
Scene life stems from Hispanic Culture. When someone goes to a to a nightclub, it is a social outlet to meet people. The motivations are to talk about life in a nonthreatening environment. Some people want to meet Business Partners or advertise clothes. Some want to view interesting clothing or potential for outfits in a non-formal venue. It is a good place to do business.
Sometimes people bring Family or Friends. Sometimes people want to meet a respectable person to date and eventually marry. Formality is similar to a Sunday picnic at the park.
When I had an interest in Modeling; it made sense to go the nightclub. I could wear outrageous outfits. It is fun dancing. I try to be nice. I am not there to "hookup" with people. When a nightclub becomes popular no one wants to go anymore. It is icky.
Gossip about low moral standards is more interesting. I initially thought, "You are here. Why are you so judgmental?" Realizing there is a larger influx of people who have low morality, they are not there for the same reason
Once again, I find myself in a similar predicament. Life experience builds on itself to prepare someone for their future. There is a time to make greats mistakes or avoid getting in huge ongoing problems.
I have a couple of thoughts. I am avoiding dating anyone younger than me. I am single and need to have more online friends who are around the same age. I do not want to create a conflict.
I dated men who were younger than me. It was awkward. They have idea of what someone "my age" would want in a relationship. It is not mean by intention. A relationship is difficult.
I would let someone know my age before making commitments. There was someone who needed to know my age to know whether to be aloof or dominate. They wanted me to move in and have a relationship. We did not do more than hug. He was overly ready for next stages of the relationship.
Realistically, the Older Person has to be more responsible. Men and Women have different issues around being a respectable person. This means having a greater understanding of how actions have effects and attempting to find a suitable method for everyone to be happy.
This does not make someone a genius. An amount of consideration between people around the same age is not as important. Everyone is equally ignorant. This makes life easier. There are social roles. Regardless of intent, damage to a person's reputation or creating ongoing problems for another person, consequences makes them less trustworthy in the future.
Time to evaluate the potential for a long-term relationship is important. I do not want to be "that kind of person." If feeling the relationship will not last for a few years, there should be an evaluation of the relationship. No one can completely know each other, yet the evaluation process should be extensive.
The previously mentioned guy was too pushy. As a High-Pressure Salesperson, I imagine him always trying to talk me into something for the rest of my life. It was better to realize this before becoming emotional involvement.
I am not trying to deduce another culture for my Peer Group. I went to college and found a career. As old as I might become, I do not want to be "that kind of person." I imagine trying to be clever while seventy years old. I might not know enough about current trends. Regardless of time, there are issues that are universal and always true. It is important to be respectful of everyone.
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Creating Confidence
People think confidence is an attitude projected out to others. However, it is a reaction from others reinforcing confidence. People with low confidence want to appear confident. There are many ways to encourage real confidence. Encouraging people to give positive reinforcement creates confidence. Thinking positively to produce positive reinforcement creates confidence. After establishing an internal and external flow of good feelings it is easy to gain benefits.
There are many techniques to make an outward appearance a winning combination regardless of weight, age, gender or race. Confidence is a great tool. People who appear to have skills to achieve greatness are given opportunities. Think of a competitive sport. Someone lacking confidence generates a negative reaction. When they stumble or fall, the audience shutters and chatters. Someone projecting confidence makes mistakes and the audience laughs knowing they will get up and do well.
Someone who looks scattered and sloppy has to be number one, because they are given fewer chances. This eliminates time to harness skills. Someone who is groomed is asked to try again. People believe they have the capacity to do better. This is a sad truth in life. However, achieving greatness takes time, practice and dedication. A suitable appearance only fuels the ability to stay in the game while learning.
Components related to physical appearance are physical and mental. Performing at a personal best helps maintain a nice appearance and positive outlook on life. No one ever has to become someone else in order to be accepted. Yet, some people may dislike you no matter how good you look while many love you the way you are. This begins with inner confidence.
The tips in "Creating Confidence" improve the chances of hearing, "You will get them next time;" or "You will win," even when in fifth place. Opportunities should be taken with respect and understanding. Second chances eventually run out. Confidence is only a method to gaining time to perfect a skill.
Having an appealing appearance does not equate to sexuality or looking like a model. It is an aspect of caring about your self. Visually showing others you care about yourself makes them care about you. Not taking the time to look in the mirror is like giving up. People do not support quitters. Beyond letting others know you will do what is necessary to succeed, they should want to support your decisions. Maintain positive thoughts to communicate thoughts sincerely. Hearing good things creates a cycle of industrious, uplifting feelings.
There are many techniques to make an outward appearance a winning combination regardless of weight, age, gender or race. Confidence is a great tool. People who appear to have skills to achieve greatness are given opportunities. Think of a competitive sport. Someone lacking confidence generates a negative reaction. When they stumble or fall, the audience shutters and chatters. Someone projecting confidence makes mistakes and the audience laughs knowing they will get up and do well.
Someone who looks scattered and sloppy has to be number one, because they are given fewer chances. This eliminates time to harness skills. Someone who is groomed is asked to try again. People believe they have the capacity to do better. This is a sad truth in life. However, achieving greatness takes time, practice and dedication. A suitable appearance only fuels the ability to stay in the game while learning.
Components related to physical appearance are physical and mental. Performing at a personal best helps maintain a nice appearance and positive outlook on life. No one ever has to become someone else in order to be accepted. Yet, some people may dislike you no matter how good you look while many love you the way you are. This begins with inner confidence.
The tips in "Creating Confidence" improve the chances of hearing, "You will get them next time;" or "You will win," even when in fifth place. Opportunities should be taken with respect and understanding. Second chances eventually run out. Confidence is only a method to gaining time to perfect a skill.
Having an appealing appearance does not equate to sexuality or looking like a model. It is an aspect of caring about your self. Visually showing others you care about yourself makes them care about you. Not taking the time to look in the mirror is like giving up. People do not support quitters. Beyond letting others know you will do what is necessary to succeed, they should want to support your decisions. Maintain positive thoughts to communicate thoughts sincerely. Hearing good things creates a cycle of industrious, uplifting feelings.
Urban Wildlife
Around the house and yard, several people think insects and spiders are pests. As a young child, my Mother showed me how to move insects and spiders outside. Since then it is great to contribute to a healthier environment.
There are a few tips for maintaining clean home while preserving nature. The biggest tip is to use granulated insect repellents. Several great brands are effective for three to six months. Securing the perimeter is easy as sprinkling granules while walking around the house.
I like insects, yet when ants invade the house it is tricky to move without stepping on them. Taking time to move them to the yard on tissues, outside where they have food, sunlight and water. Inside, they die or invade my territory by crawling over my food.
Spiders are predators. Indoor spiders look at ants like cattle. Unfortunately most insects are outside so there are few options. With an abundance of food outside a few months ago I found a large, potentially pregnant spider in the bathroom. With a cup and piece of paper she was relocated into the bushes outside where her children will mature in a flourishing hunting ground. They will defend the house from invading insects.
Built for weather, bushes and trees offer shelter to hide from birds. Birds have an attraction to the yards because they eat insects and spiders. With available food birds enjoy nesting in nearby trees. There are few threats because we avoid poisoning the lawn. Birds eating insects dying from poison equals dead birds.
They have their space. I have my space. Since it is private property people cannot interfere. Neighbors never complain. Everyone loves squirrels, wrens and bees. Birds and furry animals running wild, makes the neighborhood inviting. Birds and animals verify air and water are clean. A place that is only habitable by people is probably toxic; ergo, people living there are lingering close to illness or death.
Last spring there was a problem with worms in the fruit trees. Initially there was an abundance of fruit. Fruit attracts various bugs. I worry some might be larva that become caterpillars because the incident instigates a conversation to spray the tree with poison though I do not eat much fruit. I enjoy the beauty of the tree though seen as attracting pests.
Poison prevents worms from getting into the fruit and it also reduces the livelihood of whatever it becomes, moths or butterflies. Poisoning the worms could poison birds or taint the nectar reducing a food supply for birds. Most neighborhoods have community rules for maintaining a yard. One year wild growing wheat became overgrown and an anonymous person reported it.
A nature reserve has limitations. I do not farm my yard. A reduction of pesticides at home provides territory for wildlife while farms protect food we eat. Humans make everything complex with divisions of labor.
The example about bats, mentioned in "Solution to Air Pollution," would require consensus from an entire neighborhood or at least surrounding homes before implementation. Discussions should be open at Community Council Meetings or talking to neighbors. Prepare fliers and debate to reach a consensus.
If someone called Animal Control I have imagined the explanation, "This is my property." However, these actions affect their lives. I also imagine surges of irritation walking to the mailbox while several mosquitoes sting me. Notifying everyone gives them the ability to prepare for changes.
Inside the home, I do not use poisons. Keeping the house clean deters most insects. There is no food source after wiping counters with window cleaners, mopping floors with ammonia and taking out the garbage. Throw away old food. Give food to charity if it is a few months away from expiration. After it expires it attracts bugs.
Gnats are tiny. It is impossible to touch one without causing damage. Soon after wheat loses its preservation gnats swarm. Setting traps with a glass of water or leaving food in the garbage makes it possible to move a handful outside; yet removing their food from the house is how to safely remove gnats without contaminating the house with deadly poisons.
It is wonderful having a garden that is active with life and in excellent health. Determining how to maintain it takes a lot of forethought. Most people know to trim bushes and mow the lawn. There are several ethical reasons for making a home a haven for wildlife and logically live in harmony with urban landscapes.
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There are a few tips for maintaining clean home while preserving nature. The biggest tip is to use granulated insect repellents. Several great brands are effective for three to six months. Securing the perimeter is easy as sprinkling granules while walking around the house.
I like insects, yet when ants invade the house it is tricky to move without stepping on them. Taking time to move them to the yard on tissues, outside where they have food, sunlight and water. Inside, they die or invade my territory by crawling over my food.
Spiders are predators. Indoor spiders look at ants like cattle. Unfortunately most insects are outside so there are few options. With an abundance of food outside a few months ago I found a large, potentially pregnant spider in the bathroom. With a cup and piece of paper she was relocated into the bushes outside where her children will mature in a flourishing hunting ground. They will defend the house from invading insects.
Built for weather, bushes and trees offer shelter to hide from birds. Birds have an attraction to the yards because they eat insects and spiders. With available food birds enjoy nesting in nearby trees. There are few threats because we avoid poisoning the lawn. Birds eating insects dying from poison equals dead birds.
They have their space. I have my space. Since it is private property people cannot interfere. Neighbors never complain. Everyone loves squirrels, wrens and bees. Birds and furry animals running wild, makes the neighborhood inviting. Birds and animals verify air and water are clean. A place that is only habitable by people is probably toxic; ergo, people living there are lingering close to illness or death.
Last spring there was a problem with worms in the fruit trees. Initially there was an abundance of fruit. Fruit attracts various bugs. I worry some might be larva that become caterpillars because the incident instigates a conversation to spray the tree with poison though I do not eat much fruit. I enjoy the beauty of the tree though seen as attracting pests.
Poison prevents worms from getting into the fruit and it also reduces the livelihood of whatever it becomes, moths or butterflies. Poisoning the worms could poison birds or taint the nectar reducing a food supply for birds. Most neighborhoods have community rules for maintaining a yard. One year wild growing wheat became overgrown and an anonymous person reported it.
A nature reserve has limitations. I do not farm my yard. A reduction of pesticides at home provides territory for wildlife while farms protect food we eat. Humans make everything complex with divisions of labor.
The example about bats, mentioned in "Solution to Air Pollution," would require consensus from an entire neighborhood or at least surrounding homes before implementation. Discussions should be open at Community Council Meetings or talking to neighbors. Prepare fliers and debate to reach a consensus.
If someone called Animal Control I have imagined the explanation, "This is my property." However, these actions affect their lives. I also imagine surges of irritation walking to the mailbox while several mosquitoes sting me. Notifying everyone gives them the ability to prepare for changes.
Inside the home, I do not use poisons. Keeping the house clean deters most insects. There is no food source after wiping counters with window cleaners, mopping floors with ammonia and taking out the garbage. Throw away old food. Give food to charity if it is a few months away from expiration. After it expires it attracts bugs.
Gnats are tiny. It is impossible to touch one without causing damage. Soon after wheat loses its preservation gnats swarm. Setting traps with a glass of water or leaving food in the garbage makes it possible to move a handful outside; yet removing their food from the house is how to safely remove gnats without contaminating the house with deadly poisons.
It is wonderful having a garden that is active with life and in excellent health. Determining how to maintain it takes a lot of forethought. Most people know to trim bushes and mow the lawn. There are several ethical reasons for making a home a haven for wildlife and logically live in harmony with urban landscapes.
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Vehicular Accidents
Summertime is great time to go outside and explore the city. There are also more accidents involving cars. People might assume there are more accidents in the winter because of driving conditions; however, there are more accidents involving pedestrians. How would I handle pedestrian or motor vehicle accidents?
There is a tendency to want to lay people on their back after they were in an accident. Do not do this. If there is an injury to the neck or spine it could cause instant death.
It is weird getting hit by a car or having an intense accident while skateboarding at the park. It might take a minute to adjust. The person who suddenly did a cartwheel after hitting their head is still walking around. They are in shock. First tell them to sit down. You might have to repeat it several times until they sit down, but do not touch them. If they are already down tell them not to move. If they damaged their neck, pulling on their head could snap the spine and kill them within minutes.
Call the emergency help line and wait for paramedics. They might look awkward yet moving them in anyway that feels unnatural could result in permanent spinal injury. Talk about stuff and if they feel laying down is better, let them move themselves. Do not do it for them. Emergency Medical Technicians will place a brace around their neck and spine.
Do not move someone is saying they are in pain. Never touch them or try to make them move in a way that feels uncomfortable.
That is the best method to handle the majority of most accidents. In automobile accidents, I perform the usual task of looking for police cars, firetrucks or ambulances on the scene. Even if people are standing around, I still call the emergency help line. It only takes a minute to pull over to the side of the road and make a phone call.
Oddly, people see accidents and no one calls the Police. Dozens of witnesses could surround the person and everyone thinks someone else called the emergency hotline. It is better to call to make sure someone reported the accident. If close to the accident, you can roll down the window and as if they already called. It bothers me to think someone could get in an accident where everyone in both cars are unable to report the accident themselves because of injury. Everyone who drove by thought the people in the cars called, because that is what most people would do. Meanwhile people are slowly dieing in their cars.
It could happen and has happened. I am not a person who checks on passengers. I will pull over and call the Police. Maybe they do not have cell phones. There is only one time I witnessed a car accident. It happened right in front of me. I saw the guy making a left turn. He had a couple kids and the oncoming car hit a corner of the bumper. The car spin around. I stopped immediately to avoid getting hit. It was weird. I called in and reported the accident to tell the Operator what I had seen.
Sometimes accidents are difficult to determine. I tried to keep any weird thoughts about intention or what really happened to myself and report what happened. Later on the testimonial might be helpful in determining fault. If witnessing a crime, even though fairly sure someone else will report it, always call to report what was seen as a Witness.
I can imagine what would make me get out of the car. I remember seeing people with a flat tire on the side of the road in the middle of the night. Driving alone, as a Woman, I took precautions. I rolled the window down an inch and locked the doors. They needed a car jack. Driving an economy car, while they drive a truck they were able to use some stuff to make the jack touch the bottom of their truck. They fixed the tire and closed the truck. I feel good.
It was awkward, yet anyone driving alone or even with a small group should protect themselves in these situations. I have roadside service. It'll be a few minutes until the tow truck arrives. I tell people through a crack in the window that roadside service will arrive soon.
Not everyone has roadside service and going back to the situation were someone is in a severe accident, it would have to be a dark night, in a quiet suburban neighborhood or out near farmlands before getting out of the car solely to protect them from being touched. It isn't even a matter of offering resuscitation. As long as they are breathing, even shallow breaths that are slightly choking with weird gurgling noises, they are better staying exactly where they are.
Even when breathing stops, they have a couple minutes. It is so important not to move them. If they stop breathing try to hold their head and body in place. Do not move them. Do not try to make it look less intensely painful. That is how people die or become paraplegics. Absolutely no one is around so it is time to tell them to not move or try to get out of the car. They need to stay still. The Police and Ambulances will be there soon. Also tell other people to stay away from them. Do not try to move them from the car. Ask people if they are licensed for resuscitation and have the appropriate equipment. There might be a need for it, yet letting the Authorities handle it is best. Beyond telling people to avoid touching them and making it worse, there is really nothing to do.
Even if someone called, call again. Pull over to the side of the road and call the emergency hotline and drive away. It really is the least a person can do. One or dozens of people reported it. It was reported.
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There is a tendency to want to lay people on their back after they were in an accident. Do not do this. If there is an injury to the neck or spine it could cause instant death.
It is weird getting hit by a car or having an intense accident while skateboarding at the park. It might take a minute to adjust. The person who suddenly did a cartwheel after hitting their head is still walking around. They are in shock. First tell them to sit down. You might have to repeat it several times until they sit down, but do not touch them. If they are already down tell them not to move. If they damaged their neck, pulling on their head could snap the spine and kill them within minutes.
Call the emergency help line and wait for paramedics. They might look awkward yet moving them in anyway that feels unnatural could result in permanent spinal injury. Talk about stuff and if they feel laying down is better, let them move themselves. Do not do it for them. Emergency Medical Technicians will place a brace around their neck and spine.
Do not move someone is saying they are in pain. Never touch them or try to make them move in a way that feels uncomfortable.
That is the best method to handle the majority of most accidents. In automobile accidents, I perform the usual task of looking for police cars, firetrucks or ambulances on the scene. Even if people are standing around, I still call the emergency help line. It only takes a minute to pull over to the side of the road and make a phone call.
Oddly, people see accidents and no one calls the Police. Dozens of witnesses could surround the person and everyone thinks someone else called the emergency hotline. It is better to call to make sure someone reported the accident. If close to the accident, you can roll down the window and as if they already called. It bothers me to think someone could get in an accident where everyone in both cars are unable to report the accident themselves because of injury. Everyone who drove by thought the people in the cars called, because that is what most people would do. Meanwhile people are slowly dieing in their cars.
It could happen and has happened. I am not a person who checks on passengers. I will pull over and call the Police. Maybe they do not have cell phones. There is only one time I witnessed a car accident. It happened right in front of me. I saw the guy making a left turn. He had a couple kids and the oncoming car hit a corner of the bumper. The car spin around. I stopped immediately to avoid getting hit. It was weird. I called in and reported the accident to tell the Operator what I had seen.
Sometimes accidents are difficult to determine. I tried to keep any weird thoughts about intention or what really happened to myself and report what happened. Later on the testimonial might be helpful in determining fault. If witnessing a crime, even though fairly sure someone else will report it, always call to report what was seen as a Witness.
I can imagine what would make me get out of the car. I remember seeing people with a flat tire on the side of the road in the middle of the night. Driving alone, as a Woman, I took precautions. I rolled the window down an inch and locked the doors. They needed a car jack. Driving an economy car, while they drive a truck they were able to use some stuff to make the jack touch the bottom of their truck. They fixed the tire and closed the truck. I feel good.
It was awkward, yet anyone driving alone or even with a small group should protect themselves in these situations. I have roadside service. It'll be a few minutes until the tow truck arrives. I tell people through a crack in the window that roadside service will arrive soon.
Not everyone has roadside service and going back to the situation were someone is in a severe accident, it would have to be a dark night, in a quiet suburban neighborhood or out near farmlands before getting out of the car solely to protect them from being touched. It isn't even a matter of offering resuscitation. As long as they are breathing, even shallow breaths that are slightly choking with weird gurgling noises, they are better staying exactly where they are.
Even when breathing stops, they have a couple minutes. It is so important not to move them. If they stop breathing try to hold their head and body in place. Do not move them. Do not try to make it look less intensely painful. That is how people die or become paraplegics. Absolutely no one is around so it is time to tell them to not move or try to get out of the car. They need to stay still. The Police and Ambulances will be there soon. Also tell other people to stay away from them. Do not try to move them from the car. Ask people if they are licensed for resuscitation and have the appropriate equipment. There might be a need for it, yet letting the Authorities handle it is best. Beyond telling people to avoid touching them and making it worse, there is really nothing to do.
Even if someone called, call again. Pull over to the side of the road and call the emergency hotline and drive away. It really is the least a person can do. One or dozens of people reported it. It was reported.
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Distance Defense
Lately news and public service announcements talk about online predators and bullies. While many distinguish these as separate topics, the method of protection is similar. When talking about self-defense many people believe it is an issue of hitting the hardest and doing the most damage; however, stepping back and running away is what protects most from harm.
Online predators are like thieves. My Mom once told me a story about how she and some of her friends watched a thief go door-to-door when she was younger. The thief turned the doorknob. If it was locked they went to the next house. They imagined thief would go inside to steal when a door was unlocked.
It is easy to lock doors or offer challenges by having conditions on who may and may not have personal information like a phone number or address. This allows time to ask questions and learn about the person. Make arrangements to meet an unknown person in a public place. Jot down their known information, name, e-mail address and login name so if they are creepy police have a start point to begin a search. Leave information with a friend or family member. If feeling discrete, leave the message somewhere where it is easily found.
Do the same thing if meeting them at home. Call a friend or family member and casually tell them their name and how you met. Life is not scripted. A person cannot depend on a family member or friend to rush in and offer support. They are probably busy with their own life this why an escape plan is necessary in defense. Confidence, even when totally alone, allows a person to take beneficial risks.
Home defense is similar to a fire drill. Know where all the exits are and get out of the house as quickly as possible. I met someone on the internet. They visited my home for a weekend. We went to dance clubs and had a lot of fun. They were polite and were fine sleeping in the living room. I was great meeting them in real life and making a new friend.
These types of experiences are great; however, each person is different and must be screened equally as well in each encounter. Many great experiences might make a person lazy. Luckily, it turned out okay. If it didn't I was living along in an apartment, yet it was easy to leave even if he began to act aggressively.
Sometimes it is difficult to realize what other people want. It might not be blatant. Hypothetically an internet friend brought a DVD to watch while chatting. If they become aggressive, a person might want their guest to leave since it is their home. This does not always workout and might create a situation of rape or abuse. Leave the house and go to a neighbor's house to call police. If you have a camera, take a picture of them or their car in front of the house to get a restraining order or correctly identify them.
Don't worry about finding a cell phone or camera. It is like running from a burning building. Just make an excuse to get up and then walk out the door. If living in a single level home with windows that open easily say you're going to the bathroom and then crawl out of the window. If the cell phone is close grab it on the way out, so it is easier to call the police.
I prefer remaining calm in awkward situations. There is a greater chance they will leave at a reasonable time and there was no reason to overreact. I don't have to invite them over again if they seem creepy. When they are clearly predators, gracefully leaving is better than a fist fight while trying to run to a public sidewalk or friend's home.
Bullies are a unique category, because they often abuse people publicly and feel justified in the abuse they deliver to others. Problems increase with fighting. While someone feels they are defending themselves, they are actually starting fights, similar to a bully. It becomes confusing. Who is bullying whom? Whether unsure you'll have self-control talking to them or they are provoking you, maintain distance. Avoiding obsessing over what they are doing. Focus on friends and make it clear that they are approaching to behave negatively.
This might sound cold and might be cold; however, life is short. It is deciding whether or not to spend several hours wondering why people don't like your style, gossip, say rude things or fight when there are other people who already like you and you like them. They assist in making life enjoyable and productive. It is not always the end of a relationship either. Time to work on bettering one's self is time to work on accepting them for who they are or self-improvement for future encounters.
We often empathize with predators and bullies. Understanding they feel confused or they are in grief. The aggressive stance relates to vulnerability or overcompensating because of past experience or fear. This might be true, yet it does not give them permission to affect everyone mentally or physically whether welcome or unwelcome. There is never a question about whether or not a murdered person wanted to be murdered. They did not want to be murdered. Therefore, be constructive by walking away and creating distance from people who want you to do something you don't want to do.
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Online predators are like thieves. My Mom once told me a story about how she and some of her friends watched a thief go door-to-door when she was younger. The thief turned the doorknob. If it was locked they went to the next house. They imagined thief would go inside to steal when a door was unlocked.
It is easy to lock doors or offer challenges by having conditions on who may and may not have personal information like a phone number or address. This allows time to ask questions and learn about the person. Make arrangements to meet an unknown person in a public place. Jot down their known information, name, e-mail address and login name so if they are creepy police have a start point to begin a search. Leave information with a friend or family member. If feeling discrete, leave the message somewhere where it is easily found.
Do the same thing if meeting them at home. Call a friend or family member and casually tell them their name and how you met. Life is not scripted. A person cannot depend on a family member or friend to rush in and offer support. They are probably busy with their own life this why an escape plan is necessary in defense. Confidence, even when totally alone, allows a person to take beneficial risks.
Home defense is similar to a fire drill. Know where all the exits are and get out of the house as quickly as possible. I met someone on the internet. They visited my home for a weekend. We went to dance clubs and had a lot of fun. They were polite and were fine sleeping in the living room. I was great meeting them in real life and making a new friend.
These types of experiences are great; however, each person is different and must be screened equally as well in each encounter. Many great experiences might make a person lazy. Luckily, it turned out okay. If it didn't I was living along in an apartment, yet it was easy to leave even if he began to act aggressively.
Sometimes it is difficult to realize what other people want. It might not be blatant. Hypothetically an internet friend brought a DVD to watch while chatting. If they become aggressive, a person might want their guest to leave since it is their home. This does not always workout and might create a situation of rape or abuse. Leave the house and go to a neighbor's house to call police. If you have a camera, take a picture of them or their car in front of the house to get a restraining order or correctly identify them.
Don't worry about finding a cell phone or camera. It is like running from a burning building. Just make an excuse to get up and then walk out the door. If living in a single level home with windows that open easily say you're going to the bathroom and then crawl out of the window. If the cell phone is close grab it on the way out, so it is easier to call the police.
I prefer remaining calm in awkward situations. There is a greater chance they will leave at a reasonable time and there was no reason to overreact. I don't have to invite them over again if they seem creepy. When they are clearly predators, gracefully leaving is better than a fist fight while trying to run to a public sidewalk or friend's home.
Bullies are a unique category, because they often abuse people publicly and feel justified in the abuse they deliver to others. Problems increase with fighting. While someone feels they are defending themselves, they are actually starting fights, similar to a bully. It becomes confusing. Who is bullying whom? Whether unsure you'll have self-control talking to them or they are provoking you, maintain distance. Avoiding obsessing over what they are doing. Focus on friends and make it clear that they are approaching to behave negatively.
This might sound cold and might be cold; however, life is short. It is deciding whether or not to spend several hours wondering why people don't like your style, gossip, say rude things or fight when there are other people who already like you and you like them. They assist in making life enjoyable and productive. It is not always the end of a relationship either. Time to work on bettering one's self is time to work on accepting them for who they are or self-improvement for future encounters.
We often empathize with predators and bullies. Understanding they feel confused or they are in grief. The aggressive stance relates to vulnerability or overcompensating because of past experience or fear. This might be true, yet it does not give them permission to affect everyone mentally or physically whether welcome or unwelcome. There is never a question about whether or not a murdered person wanted to be murdered. They did not want to be murdered. Therefore, be constructive by walking away and creating distance from people who want you to do something you don't want to do.
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Friday, November 22, 2013
Just Passing
In reference to a past article, "Being Non-Stalker," this article provides additional tips to navigating through stressful and potentially dangerous life events. I talk to Psychologists, for personal reasons, on occasion. Beginning this as a Preteen, meditation and review of past events does not produce realistic answers. Going over the problem, there are answers. None of them are acceptable. Usually, I get a referral through a Doctor or Work. It is not always the same Psychologist. Once I had to change Psychologists. The one I was talking to was not helping.
At most, I spoke to a Psychologist about one issue over a few weeks. A Psychologist through a work referral answered my question in one visit. I had suspicions someone was a Stalker. It might have been multiple people who attempted to damage my reputation. I was angry. I wanted to tell them that not to treat me badly.
I am not sure what happened. Thinking about it later, I feel partially responsible. I had a problem with abuse as a Child. People think it was my Parents. It was not. I was in the care of another person who did not enjoy taking caring of me. They felt it was their responsibility. One day, they picked me up after school. We rode home on a bicycle. They had a belt to keep me in place. I fell off and was held against the wheel for several block. It was extremely painful and removed several layers of skin and cut into the muscle. I passed out from pain. I went to the hospital. Their attitude was, they should not be responsible. Kids just whine all-the-time.
People were around. They tried to help. I vaguely remember people yelling. The Caregiver avoided everyone. Not until recent years, I realize people around the neighborhood harassed them. The eventually moved. There is no desire to return home. I learned many things because of this trauma. Except, I barely remember the entire event. I was only five years old when it happened.
I learned people will try to help someone, yet not be very effective. I realized that I do not want to be under someone's care or need help from someone who has diminishing viewpoints in relation to my character. People can be cruel. Not the Caregiver, the people who harassed them until they left. Some people have to feel superior over everyone. A person's life can be ruined with one mistake. Those who harass someone, never showing forgiveness, are bullies. After the problem had a resolution and the person learned from their mistake, the issue was resolved. Petty People are derisive. The want to feel virtuous and better than they are. They never know when a debt is paid and the issue is over.
Later in life, I have a tendency to be shy, especially around people who are stressful. I do not like any indication of being a burden to anyone. There is a tendency to want to provoke the issue when feeling a threat. Friendship should not be a chore. I want to get away from them. I perceive them as dangerous. Since that time, it is difficult to find a balance between being friendly and defending myself. I have a tendency to be overly-defensive or too friendly.
It is my Parents responsibility to care for me. There is an obvious flaw in part of the logic. I met some people. It was difficult to know if they were friendly or mean. I left like usual. Creating distance after a few experiences is my main plan. However, I had a friend who thought I should "stick-up-for-myself."
This is an internal conflict. It is fairly obvious that signs of wanting to help someone is not really a method of identifying someone as abusive. Quickly, I felt guilty and unsure of how it would end. I already had my game plan of just never talking to them again and avoiding them.
It was time to see a Psychologist. He said that I should move on with my life and go about daily life. Do not let thoughts of some stalking affect choices.
At that time, I worked as a Delivery Driver for a pizza shop. Someone wanted to let me know where someone else lived. It felt like they tried to tell me to avoid the area. What if a lot of people do that? I will be out-of-a-job and unable to support myself.
I still have a life and goals. I have to be somewhere. It was difficult to maintain regular activities to live an acceptable life. I should not have to change my route or conform to anything.
Currently, I am not sure what is going on. There is gossip. They had time to become better friends, yet there is a problems with Stalkers. I don't think anyone is stalking them. They might be stalking each other. There is a chance of harassment. People might thing they are insane.
I wonder what would have happened. I cannot make myself go into a situation that might be dangerous. I imagine they also have issues. It could have been diffused. If everyone spoke to each other, it would be possible to piece together what happened. That is a reason to encourage over-reacting to people.
I believe, it is better to know everyone can not "get along." It decreases stress on something that might be unresolvable. It might be resolvable. Continually aggravating a situation is a bad idea. In fact, without gossip, hurt feelings and inability to identify threats could have an end of a casual conversation one day. However, it is a big deal in my mind. It might be in their mind.
I do not know. I do not have all the answers. It is important to be able to admit that there are several unknown issues in the world. There are potentially many answers, yet I cannot see around corners or into people's personal lives. They would not know about me. I would not know about them. This is why Police are important.
Police do their job. Report crimes as they happen. Do not create crimes in attempts to obtain justice.
I received a phone call mid-morning one day. The person threatened me. I was only half-awake. I hoped it was a prank phone call. I knew someone was thinking about harming me. They had enough courage to call. I did not know who it was.
A slight misunderstanding can become worse. Get back to living. Do not give up control of your future, because it is important to protect their feelings. You have feelings and should be able to live well without harassment. Avoid being mean. Do not go out-of-your-way to be in contact with them. Not everyone has to be Friends. There is a difference between periodic venting and stalking.
Stalking is a serious crime involving a deep obsession to end somebody's life. It manifests slowly or quickly. A Person cannot escape repetitive problems, because they contribute to the same problem. I would enjoy not being apprehensive around people. Explore the idea of a better relationship. I have gotten better, yet many thoughts I have about them are probably thoughts. I do not know. Being aware of my own actions is diffuses the problem, at least for myself, maybe them one day.
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At most, I spoke to a Psychologist about one issue over a few weeks. A Psychologist through a work referral answered my question in one visit. I had suspicions someone was a Stalker. It might have been multiple people who attempted to damage my reputation. I was angry. I wanted to tell them that not to treat me badly.
I am not sure what happened. Thinking about it later, I feel partially responsible. I had a problem with abuse as a Child. People think it was my Parents. It was not. I was in the care of another person who did not enjoy taking caring of me. They felt it was their responsibility. One day, they picked me up after school. We rode home on a bicycle. They had a belt to keep me in place. I fell off and was held against the wheel for several block. It was extremely painful and removed several layers of skin and cut into the muscle. I passed out from pain. I went to the hospital. Their attitude was, they should not be responsible. Kids just whine all-the-time.
People were around. They tried to help. I vaguely remember people yelling. The Caregiver avoided everyone. Not until recent years, I realize people around the neighborhood harassed them. The eventually moved. There is no desire to return home. I learned many things because of this trauma. Except, I barely remember the entire event. I was only five years old when it happened.
I learned people will try to help someone, yet not be very effective. I realized that I do not want to be under someone's care or need help from someone who has diminishing viewpoints in relation to my character. People can be cruel. Not the Caregiver, the people who harassed them until they left. Some people have to feel superior over everyone. A person's life can be ruined with one mistake. Those who harass someone, never showing forgiveness, are bullies. After the problem had a resolution and the person learned from their mistake, the issue was resolved. Petty People are derisive. The want to feel virtuous and better than they are. They never know when a debt is paid and the issue is over.
Later in life, I have a tendency to be shy, especially around people who are stressful. I do not like any indication of being a burden to anyone. There is a tendency to want to provoke the issue when feeling a threat. Friendship should not be a chore. I want to get away from them. I perceive them as dangerous. Since that time, it is difficult to find a balance between being friendly and defending myself. I have a tendency to be overly-defensive or too friendly.
It is my Parents responsibility to care for me. There is an obvious flaw in part of the logic. I met some people. It was difficult to know if they were friendly or mean. I left like usual. Creating distance after a few experiences is my main plan. However, I had a friend who thought I should "stick-up-for-myself."
This is an internal conflict. It is fairly obvious that signs of wanting to help someone is not really a method of identifying someone as abusive. Quickly, I felt guilty and unsure of how it would end. I already had my game plan of just never talking to them again and avoiding them.
It was time to see a Psychologist. He said that I should move on with my life and go about daily life. Do not let thoughts of some stalking affect choices.
At that time, I worked as a Delivery Driver for a pizza shop. Someone wanted to let me know where someone else lived. It felt like they tried to tell me to avoid the area. What if a lot of people do that? I will be out-of-a-job and unable to support myself.
I still have a life and goals. I have to be somewhere. It was difficult to maintain regular activities to live an acceptable life. I should not have to change my route or conform to anything.
Currently, I am not sure what is going on. There is gossip. They had time to become better friends, yet there is a problems with Stalkers. I don't think anyone is stalking them. They might be stalking each other. There is a chance of harassment. People might thing they are insane.
I wonder what would have happened. I cannot make myself go into a situation that might be dangerous. I imagine they also have issues. It could have been diffused. If everyone spoke to each other, it would be possible to piece together what happened. That is a reason to encourage over-reacting to people.
I believe, it is better to know everyone can not "get along." It decreases stress on something that might be unresolvable. It might be resolvable. Continually aggravating a situation is a bad idea. In fact, without gossip, hurt feelings and inability to identify threats could have an end of a casual conversation one day. However, it is a big deal in my mind. It might be in their mind.
I do not know. I do not have all the answers. It is important to be able to admit that there are several unknown issues in the world. There are potentially many answers, yet I cannot see around corners or into people's personal lives. They would not know about me. I would not know about them. This is why Police are important.
Police do their job. Report crimes as they happen. Do not create crimes in attempts to obtain justice.
I received a phone call mid-morning one day. The person threatened me. I was only half-awake. I hoped it was a prank phone call. I knew someone was thinking about harming me. They had enough courage to call. I did not know who it was.
A slight misunderstanding can become worse. Get back to living. Do not give up control of your future, because it is important to protect their feelings. You have feelings and should be able to live well without harassment. Avoid being mean. Do not go out-of-your-way to be in contact with them. Not everyone has to be Friends. There is a difference between periodic venting and stalking.
Stalking is a serious crime involving a deep obsession to end somebody's life. It manifests slowly or quickly. A Person cannot escape repetitive problems, because they contribute to the same problem. I would enjoy not being apprehensive around people. Explore the idea of a better relationship. I have gotten better, yet many thoughts I have about them are probably thoughts. I do not know. Being aware of my own actions is diffuses the problem, at least for myself, maybe them one day.
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When do you know if a person is a snitch, whistle-blower, tattle tale, gossip, protecting themselves from abuse, protecting other people from abuse, hosting an intervention or reporting a crime? I have a handful of tips to identify each circumstance, yet each circumstance clarifies with maturity.
People hear phrases like, "Never rat on friends." What if someone is saying they are friends to prevent you from telling everyone about abusive behavior? Are they your friend even though they cheat, steal, harass and abuse you verbally or physically? Is it worthwhile to be friends with someone who is abusive or better to tell them they are not your friend?
I knew someone who said, "I never steal from friends." It became clear that friends never assert needs for private space or demand respect, because if I did they stole my property. Their statement was basically, "Be nice to me even when I am mean to you or else." Every time I found something missing, it was clear we are not really friends. Should I feel bad about telling everyone about the weird person, who enjoys stealing, insists on going to my home? The friendship is over and I am happy.
When identifying someone who does not care about you or an awful person there is nothing wrong with saying something about it. The idea is to avoid snitching on friends. There are not friends. Even if they want to be friends, which they probably do not, make a personal choice to avoid mean people.
Changing the topic, interventions are essentially gossip. It is known when a friend talks about private information or something most people have negative opinions about, it is better avoid discussing it with other people. However, if the secret is extremely damaging to them and you need more help to try to control the situation, it might be a good idea to tell mutual friends.
The difference between gossip and interventions is gossip involves bringing attention to one's self by exposing people's secrets. Interventions bring attention to helping people through difficulties. Gossip is about being a Drama Queen and people do not like Drama Queens. If there is something to share, it should be about yourself. Stop sharing information about everyone else, because it might hurt their feelings or actually cause harm to them.
If someone gets awful grades at school, they should keep their secret. They have a plan and do not need additional attention. If someone is gay, yet unsure about telling other people, it is probably fine to talk about it and let them tell other people as necessary. Sometimes secrecy is an advantage when trying to address problems. Offer suggestions and advice. They just want some help.
When finding out about much bigger issues, when they are in constant danger, tell someone who is a mutual friend. Everyone can think of a plan to help them. The person hiding abuse might be upset because they do not want different treatment, like they need help, yet they need more help than what a single person can offer. Sometimes it isn't just one big issue, it is an ongoing issue until realizing it is a good idea to bring it to people's attention. Abusive people do not like exposure. Bringing attention to and issue might be the noticeable portion of a larger problem. It is difficult knowing if it is appropriate to say anything.
Sometimes it is easy to know if someone is in trouble, yet our instinct is to remain quiet or let someone else handle the problem. A person can get in trouble for calling the Police too often. There is a fine for reporting crime falsely and it is possible to become a nuisance. After being labeled a nuisance, the Police emergency calls are taken less seriously. There is also a fine, so accurately reporting crimes is a serious issue.
At one time, I was hesitant to report crimes. A friend and I sat on the porch at night. A new neighbor moved in. I am slightly ashamed by how long it took to report the crime. There was somewhat frequent screaming, name-calling and weird noises that sounded like people throwing things or being pushed against the wall. It was loud and a disturbance.
I cannot say if it was the mother or older siblings abusing younger children, yet we and most people in the neighborhood were fine with them raising their children. One day we saw the youngest son walking around. He had a black eye, so we finally reported it to the Sheriff's Office. Maybe someone would patrol with the window down. One night we decided to place a phone on the porch. Even when it started again, we were hesitant to call the emergency hotline. A few minutes passed until picking up the phone. The Police would now know there was abuse in the home.
It is difficult knowing when to call Police. Kids are known for throwing tantrums and screaming when Parents try to raise them. Kids screaming at not wanting to go anywhere, getting out of the car, falling by accident or wanting a toys. They cry when their diaper needs to be changed. When is a person interfering with raising a child or reporting abuse? It is difficult for most people to determine. However, I am certain that whatever was going on at home was worse than living with a Foster Parent that barely knows who they are or if they are there.
It was clearly abuse by length of time the ordeal. Even if raising children, sounds are extremely hostile. There was a considerable amount of proof, yet we cannot always be there to report crimes. I remember hearing about a Teacher locking a Student in a closet. I did not go to school with them and would never be able to report the crime when it is happening. It was time to tell the community. Eventually the Teacher was caught.
I imagine working there. People thinking, "Maybe the problem will go away." The Teacher was sent to several workshops to improve teaching skills. Parent might be annoyed after a Teacher was accused of abusive behavior. They will be extremely angry when their Child tells them they about abuse at school. Someone at the school has to report the crime, yet they are mostly small children.
It sucks when people's reputations are damaged because of gossip. That is why most people hate gossip. Call the Sheriff's Office when witnessing a crime. Call the emergency help line when someone is committing a crime. When someone is caught committing a crime, there are few speculations about what happened and Criminals are more likely to be punished.
Most people dislike accusations of being hyperactive in reporting crimes. It is better to report crimes with knowledge that you actually saw or heard; instead of, what people are saying. Know there is something wrong when seeing or hearing a crime. Report what you see and hear. Try to get license plate numbers. Do not guess. Do not try to figure out who did it and go to someone's home to write down their license plate numbers. Try to see and remember the color and model of car while witnessing a crime. It helps to catch people when they are doing something wrong, not just because you have a bad feeling about them.
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People hear phrases like, "Never rat on friends." What if someone is saying they are friends to prevent you from telling everyone about abusive behavior? Are they your friend even though they cheat, steal, harass and abuse you verbally or physically? Is it worthwhile to be friends with someone who is abusive or better to tell them they are not your friend?
I knew someone who said, "I never steal from friends." It became clear that friends never assert needs for private space or demand respect, because if I did they stole my property. Their statement was basically, "Be nice to me even when I am mean to you or else." Every time I found something missing, it was clear we are not really friends. Should I feel bad about telling everyone about the weird person, who enjoys stealing, insists on going to my home? The friendship is over and I am happy.
When identifying someone who does not care about you or an awful person there is nothing wrong with saying something about it. The idea is to avoid snitching on friends. There are not friends. Even if they want to be friends, which they probably do not, make a personal choice to avoid mean people.
Changing the topic, interventions are essentially gossip. It is known when a friend talks about private information or something most people have negative opinions about, it is better avoid discussing it with other people. However, if the secret is extremely damaging to them and you need more help to try to control the situation, it might be a good idea to tell mutual friends.
The difference between gossip and interventions is gossip involves bringing attention to one's self by exposing people's secrets. Interventions bring attention to helping people through difficulties. Gossip is about being a Drama Queen and people do not like Drama Queens. If there is something to share, it should be about yourself. Stop sharing information about everyone else, because it might hurt their feelings or actually cause harm to them.
If someone gets awful grades at school, they should keep their secret. They have a plan and do not need additional attention. If someone is gay, yet unsure about telling other people, it is probably fine to talk about it and let them tell other people as necessary. Sometimes secrecy is an advantage when trying to address problems. Offer suggestions and advice. They just want some help.
When finding out about much bigger issues, when they are in constant danger, tell someone who is a mutual friend. Everyone can think of a plan to help them. The person hiding abuse might be upset because they do not want different treatment, like they need help, yet they need more help than what a single person can offer. Sometimes it isn't just one big issue, it is an ongoing issue until realizing it is a good idea to bring it to people's attention. Abusive people do not like exposure. Bringing attention to and issue might be the noticeable portion of a larger problem. It is difficult knowing if it is appropriate to say anything.
Sometimes it is easy to know if someone is in trouble, yet our instinct is to remain quiet or let someone else handle the problem. A person can get in trouble for calling the Police too often. There is a fine for reporting crime falsely and it is possible to become a nuisance. After being labeled a nuisance, the Police emergency calls are taken less seriously. There is also a fine, so accurately reporting crimes is a serious issue.
At one time, I was hesitant to report crimes. A friend and I sat on the porch at night. A new neighbor moved in. I am slightly ashamed by how long it took to report the crime. There was somewhat frequent screaming, name-calling and weird noises that sounded like people throwing things or being pushed against the wall. It was loud and a disturbance.
I cannot say if it was the mother or older siblings abusing younger children, yet we and most people in the neighborhood were fine with them raising their children. One day we saw the youngest son walking around. He had a black eye, so we finally reported it to the Sheriff's Office. Maybe someone would patrol with the window down. One night we decided to place a phone on the porch. Even when it started again, we were hesitant to call the emergency hotline. A few minutes passed until picking up the phone. The Police would now know there was abuse in the home.
It is difficult knowing when to call Police. Kids are known for throwing tantrums and screaming when Parents try to raise them. Kids screaming at not wanting to go anywhere, getting out of the car, falling by accident or wanting a toys. They cry when their diaper needs to be changed. When is a person interfering with raising a child or reporting abuse? It is difficult for most people to determine. However, I am certain that whatever was going on at home was worse than living with a Foster Parent that barely knows who they are or if they are there.
It was clearly abuse by length of time the ordeal. Even if raising children, sounds are extremely hostile. There was a considerable amount of proof, yet we cannot always be there to report crimes. I remember hearing about a Teacher locking a Student in a closet. I did not go to school with them and would never be able to report the crime when it is happening. It was time to tell the community. Eventually the Teacher was caught.
I imagine working there. People thinking, "Maybe the problem will go away." The Teacher was sent to several workshops to improve teaching skills. Parent might be annoyed after a Teacher was accused of abusive behavior. They will be extremely angry when their Child tells them they about abuse at school. Someone at the school has to report the crime, yet they are mostly small children.
It sucks when people's reputations are damaged because of gossip. That is why most people hate gossip. Call the Sheriff's Office when witnessing a crime. Call the emergency help line when someone is committing a crime. When someone is caught committing a crime, there are few speculations about what happened and Criminals are more likely to be punished.
Most people dislike accusations of being hyperactive in reporting crimes. It is better to report crimes with knowledge that you actually saw or heard; instead of, what people are saying. Know there is something wrong when seeing or hearing a crime. Report what you see and hear. Try to get license plate numbers. Do not guess. Do not try to figure out who did it and go to someone's home to write down their license plate numbers. Try to see and remember the color and model of car while witnessing a crime. It helps to catch people when they are doing something wrong, not just because you have a bad feeling about them.
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Watching the news several people do not know about Citizen's Arrest. Unsure of how everyone avoids this information there are frequent portrayals of proper procedure on television. There are two main parts to Citizen's Arrest: liability and evidence. Both are important if cases go to trial. Most of the time these cases never go to trial, yet being able to defend yourself makes it easier to go places without apprehension or self-degradation when adjusting to a violent person's whims.
Liability has several issues. There are two major steps in a violent confrontation. The first is "assault." Assault is looking at someone in an unfriendly mannerism. This also includes "fighting words." Most cities prohibit use of "fighting words" within city limits.
The next phase is "battery." Battery is physical contact. The typical association is punching, yet any pushing or grabbing is also battery. In most cases assault is best dealt with by creating distance, yet there are times when a person must defend themselves against slander and fighting words so make sure the other person, "throws the first punch." They instigated violence after verbal confrontation. Frequently this also prevents fights from becoming violent since both people are waiting for the other person to throw the first punch. Usually injuries, liability, occur after fighting becomes violent. Assault is always a lesser charge, though proving assault reduces battery charges.
A bystander might want to avoid liability. As a Professor at the University explains when a spectator takes responsibility for potential accidents the wittiness becomes liable. The example is standing by the Grand Canyon and noticing a baby carriage rolling towards the edge. If a spectator interferes and stops the infant there is no problem. Without a crime there is no accident. If a spectator touches the carriage and the baby falls over the edge they can be held liable for the infant's death. This is true in Citizen's Arrest. Involvement makes the person stopping fights liable.
What does a person in the modern age do to protect themselves? I remember as a girl Teachers told us to walk everywhere in pairs. If one was nabbed the other one ran to get help from neighbors. Now most people have cellular phones with video and picture capabilities. Even without a cellular phone call the Police before, during or after a violent confrontation from a nearby payphone or courtesy phone. This enables the Police to record crime scenes. Repeatedly, Judges on television court shows asks for the police report to prove violent crimes. They assume the action was reported to Police.
When going out with friends it is easy for one person to record the assault leading to battery on a cellular phone. They are also free to call Police before, during or after the fight. This is also an option for any witness wanting to remain a witness without becoming liable.
Evidence combined with a police report makes it easy for judges to understand the full extent of all actions whether provoked into a fight or harassed. It also defines liability if acting in self-defense for another person. When someone is inebriated they might use unnecessary force. The weaker person is on the ground while the aggressor hits them. Regardless of who started the fight if the aggressor is injured in attempts to defend the weaker person the person breaking up the fight is liable for bruises or injuries to the aggressor. If the aggressor is restrained do not hi them they are on the ground and unable to harm anyone with equal force.
Most people want to interfere because they fear the weaker person might be dead before Police arrive. Begin recording events before interfering to explain the use of extraordinary force to restrain the aggressor and avoid further complications beyond testimony.
There are methods to restrain a person so they are unable to run from the scene that work well with or without cameras. Pepper spray is legal in all states. Stun guns are also legal. These methods restrain a person without causing injury until police arrive to fill out wittiness reports and assess damages. EMT's assess physical injuries.
This system is useful in auto accidents. Cars stay in place until Police observe the scene and record wittiness testimonies for official documents. People are also able to take pictures of the scene and Insurance Adjusters take pictures of the cars. Insurance Adjusters take pictures at the scene or home to record damages to the car.
Insurance Adjustors are also available to take official photos at hospitals or homes if there is a confrontation. They are usually covered under health and accident coverage.
When alone, it is possible to take footage by uploading footage directly to a webhost with live broadcasting. An aggressor might want to smash the evidence. Select "Done" or "Finish" before they take the cellular phone. These video have adult content because it probably contains racial slurs, slander or violence. Most people are unsure if a fight will become violent and refrain from calling Police. If certain they will attack you, remember to call Police immediately. When a Police Officer sees assault during regular patrols they arrest the person committing assault. Police are not able to be everywhere so tell them the cross streets.
There are social rules interfering with processing justice. Fights between men and women make it difficult to assess criminal intent. Even if providing evidence the man or woman was belligerent try to block advances. It is more acceptable for someone of the same gender to break up the fight. This rule is true until revealing weapons. When a weapon is shown use any available defense. This means punching, kicking, throwing glasses or hitting with bar stools.
There are few exceptions. The best method is to identify liability through documentation. If knowing actions were candid, you are probably right though several fights are "no fault." Both people are found creepy. It is important to provide as much evidence to Police and Judges to ensure justice is achievable and payment is not payable to liars.
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Liability has several issues. There are two major steps in a violent confrontation. The first is "assault." Assault is looking at someone in an unfriendly mannerism. This also includes "fighting words." Most cities prohibit use of "fighting words" within city limits.
The next phase is "battery." Battery is physical contact. The typical association is punching, yet any pushing or grabbing is also battery. In most cases assault is best dealt with by creating distance, yet there are times when a person must defend themselves against slander and fighting words so make sure the other person, "throws the first punch." They instigated violence after verbal confrontation. Frequently this also prevents fights from becoming violent since both people are waiting for the other person to throw the first punch. Usually injuries, liability, occur after fighting becomes violent. Assault is always a lesser charge, though proving assault reduces battery charges.
A bystander might want to avoid liability. As a Professor at the University explains when a spectator takes responsibility for potential accidents the wittiness becomes liable. The example is standing by the Grand Canyon and noticing a baby carriage rolling towards the edge. If a spectator interferes and stops the infant there is no problem. Without a crime there is no accident. If a spectator touches the carriage and the baby falls over the edge they can be held liable for the infant's death. This is true in Citizen's Arrest. Involvement makes the person stopping fights liable.
What does a person in the modern age do to protect themselves? I remember as a girl Teachers told us to walk everywhere in pairs. If one was nabbed the other one ran to get help from neighbors. Now most people have cellular phones with video and picture capabilities. Even without a cellular phone call the Police before, during or after a violent confrontation from a nearby payphone or courtesy phone. This enables the Police to record crime scenes. Repeatedly, Judges on television court shows asks for the police report to prove violent crimes. They assume the action was reported to Police.
When going out with friends it is easy for one person to record the assault leading to battery on a cellular phone. They are also free to call Police before, during or after the fight. This is also an option for any witness wanting to remain a witness without becoming liable.
Evidence combined with a police report makes it easy for judges to understand the full extent of all actions whether provoked into a fight or harassed. It also defines liability if acting in self-defense for another person. When someone is inebriated they might use unnecessary force. The weaker person is on the ground while the aggressor hits them. Regardless of who started the fight if the aggressor is injured in attempts to defend the weaker person the person breaking up the fight is liable for bruises or injuries to the aggressor. If the aggressor is restrained do not hi them they are on the ground and unable to harm anyone with equal force.
Most people want to interfere because they fear the weaker person might be dead before Police arrive. Begin recording events before interfering to explain the use of extraordinary force to restrain the aggressor and avoid further complications beyond testimony.
There are methods to restrain a person so they are unable to run from the scene that work well with or without cameras. Pepper spray is legal in all states. Stun guns are also legal. These methods restrain a person without causing injury until police arrive to fill out wittiness reports and assess damages. EMT's assess physical injuries.
This system is useful in auto accidents. Cars stay in place until Police observe the scene and record wittiness testimonies for official documents. People are also able to take pictures of the scene and Insurance Adjusters take pictures of the cars. Insurance Adjusters take pictures at the scene or home to record damages to the car.
Insurance Adjustors are also available to take official photos at hospitals or homes if there is a confrontation. They are usually covered under health and accident coverage.
When alone, it is possible to take footage by uploading footage directly to a webhost with live broadcasting. An aggressor might want to smash the evidence. Select "Done" or "Finish" before they take the cellular phone. These video have adult content because it probably contains racial slurs, slander or violence. Most people are unsure if a fight will become violent and refrain from calling Police. If certain they will attack you, remember to call Police immediately. When a Police Officer sees assault during regular patrols they arrest the person committing assault. Police are not able to be everywhere so tell them the cross streets.
There are social rules interfering with processing justice. Fights between men and women make it difficult to assess criminal intent. Even if providing evidence the man or woman was belligerent try to block advances. It is more acceptable for someone of the same gender to break up the fight. This rule is true until revealing weapons. When a weapon is shown use any available defense. This means punching, kicking, throwing glasses or hitting with bar stools.
There are few exceptions. The best method is to identify liability through documentation. If knowing actions were candid, you are probably right though several fights are "no fault." Both people are found creepy. It is important to provide as much evidence to Police and Judges to ensure justice is achievable and payment is not payable to liars.
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